I have a family member who has been stalking my family for eight years now and has been using an administrator account access for years now to spy, move, read and control my personal accounts online. From blocking support to sending me looping around for proper support services as well as refusal to do actual administrator duties as well. Now this person is related to me and seems to think that they can hurt me wherever they want by blocking loans as well as bank account sign ins, and AppleWebKit and store purchases on my account. My family keeps acting like they are just going through a faze but I have literal death threats from this situation as well and they act like its totally fine that this person is spying on everyone else in the family and looking at their private personal profile as if they have a moral duties to set you straight even though their own moral compass has not been good at all, check fraud and card fraud and identity theft just to name a few of the past issues alone. I mean should I just act like nothing is wrong like everyone else in the family or should I continue to block that part of my family and cut ties with them permanently? I don’t know how deep into the family it goes so I may find out that everyone has been privy to this treatment. Or if they are clueless about this persons mental state and how they find it essential to spy on family members as well as stealing from them? Am I the asshole for not forgiving them or are they the ones who are wrong about treating my wife and I this way for 8 years? Let me know? Will I be the Asshole?
So this person is a hacker, which is a Federal Crime. NTA. Hackers are abusive and destroy lives.
no omg you did the right thing for contacting the authorities. NTA
You would be an asshole to yourself if you don’t report this to police and secure a restraining order.
What do you mean by he has an administrator access to your accounts. Are you in a conservatorship?
Protecting yourself from criminal activity does not make you an asshole. It makes it worse that a family member is doing this stuff. Cut and run.
>using an administrator account access for years now to spy, move, read and control my personal accounts online
This doesn’t make sense.
INFO: how exactly is this person accessing your information?
What is stopping you from having a separate computer/phone, separate accounts and changing all you passwords?
I would report them to authorities if you’re legal adult age as what they’re doing is incredibly illegal.
NTA
If you think you accounts have been compromised, you need to take steps to secure them. Reporting to the police, bank, and other services is the first step.
If you think any of your physical devices have been compromised, get a cheap new phone, tablet, or chromebook and create brand new accounts on a separate wifi (use a library or similar). Then you can use the new clean device and accounts to start the clean up.
Why have you not found a legal recourse.
Change all your passwords to strong passwords. Stop using your pets name as your password.
Change your routers password.
Post doesn’t make sense
I don’t know what you think they have administrator access to.
It sounds very much like you think they have administrative access to the entire internet, which is not a thing.
Administrator access to your device wouldn’t allow them to do the types of things you describe.
I think the very best thing for you to do is go explain this to your local emergency room. They’ll have the ability to get you to the right help you need.
INFO. I’m with the people who say your post makes no sense. We could start with the question of why you have given this person “administrator account access” for your bank and other accounts and why you don’t solve much of your problem by opening new accounts. Or what your “private personal profile” is.