I’ve had a stressful few weeks with work and the work causing that was finally submitted on Friday and now my girlfriend and I are both finished work until January 5th.
My girlfriend had plans last night to go out with friends for food and a few drinks. I’d decided to have a nice relaxing evening in and catch up on tv, play video games, order some food and have a few drinks.
I was looking forward to it since it’s been a while since I’ve had a relaxing evening especially an evening to myself.
My girlfriend knew about my plans but mentioned uesterday morning she didn’t really want to go out with friends so she’d cancelled. She mentioned we could do something and go out for drinks or something.
I explained to her that she knows I’ve got a chilled night planned. She said I should be fine changing that now that she’s free but I told her I’d be keeping my plans. I said she’s welcome to watch tv and order food with me but I won’t be going out.
She got annoyed and said now her plans have changed I should be open to change mine but I just pointed out she can’t cancel her plans and just expect me to do the same.
She said she wasn’t asking for much but I just said either was I and I told her my plans won’t be changing.
AITA for refusing to change my weekend plans?
Nope, NTA. Sometimes you NEED some downtime to just chill and decompress. You offered to let your gf in on your chill night. She can either take you up on that, or make other plans. I’m curious why she changed the plans with her friends though.
NTA, but communicate your need to recharge. You’ve probably had a lot of adrenaline filled weeks, and your system has now time to switch that off, causing an extra feeling of being extra exhausted.
NTA. You went above and Brian offering to let her share your chill evening with her. I don’t know if she thought you were pouting at home because she was going out or if she’s being controlling or yet something else but she can stay in and chill with you or go do something else.
NTA but I will tell you that your girlfriend was seemingly wanting to prioritize y’alls relationship and reconnect after a stressful few weeks for both of you. She should also accept that you were willing to change your plans to include her, they just didn’t include going out.
NTA. Her desire to go out doesn’t trump your desire to stay in. I think you offered a great compromise – if she wants to be with you then you can both stay in together. If she wants to go out the. She can do so with her friends
NTA you are entitled to make your own plans and have the evening you wanted. Just because she changed hers without talking to you first doesn’t mean you automatically have to change yours.
NTA.
I absolutely don’t blame you for wanting at least one night staying in and relaxing. Your girlfriend has every other day of the holidays to spend with you going out somewhere. She cannot just assume that by canceling her own plans she can force you to do what she wants.
NTA – why should you have to change your plans just because she cancelled here plans?
NTA. She just assumed you would change your plans because she changed hers. Staying in and chilling out together is also spending time together. If she wanted to go out and get a drink she should have kept her plans and went out with friends. I wouldn’t feel bad if I were you.
NTA. Your GF unilaterally cancelled her plans because she didn’t want to do what she had planned. You still want to do what you planned.
Cripes, can’t you have one friggin night at home?
I’m having deja vu, I’ve read this before.
Oh OP, you have experience something many of us who have loved to… I look into the future. Think how she will be if you were married.
NTA