A girl I matched w posted me on an are we dating the same guy facebook. With the reasoning “something is off”. It was all ppl saying im a nice guy etc etc. when she admitted this i said I didnt think it was cool at all and id rather not talk. aita. I get those groups for safety but this felt like gossip i didnt feel okay with it at all.
Nah I think you ending things is valid 100%. It’s also valid that she posted it, Even though those websites are pretty consulting to the men…. You just hear stories about how horrible people can be dating multiple people like how do you even have time?!
NAH I guess. Like you said, those sites are for safety. She wanted to make sure she wasn’t getting involved with somebody violent or abusive, so it’s hard to fault her for that. But you can also stop talking to her for any reason, and I suppose this is one.
These sites were created to protect women. You aren’t supposed to even be privy to the posts as a man but some pick me women are always going to ruin it and share with men anyway. That being said, you don’t have to continue dating her if you don’t like that she posted there. It seems like she might not be that into you anyway based on the post.
There’s a comment from OP saying that some female friends told him.
I would wager that one of them has a desire replace this woman in the role of romantic partner.
ESH. she is going to figure out what makes her feel comfortable. And so are you. You dont have to talk to her if youre not ok with what she did.
Comme ci comme ca i guess
NAH. If she felt something was off, I can’t blame her for wanting to make sure, but tbh I can’t say for sure I‘d be able to laugh it off if someone posted my pics somewhere like that. (I‘m a woman so I guess it’s not likely to happen to me.) IMO neither of you is an AH, it’s just not the right fit.
NAH. I am i memeber of one of those pages and i cannot tell you how many women find out their husbands/bfs are cheating on them on there, or how many times the replies have been along the lines of “he has tried to kill me” on there. Its seriously alarming. I get youd be upset but youre a man and dont have to worry even half as much about getting raped and murdered by matches on dating sites. Ffs theres a whole documentary on the tinder swindler. She was just trying to make sure youre a safe person to be around and not an abuser.
I get it I but we had only matched so to me it del more like gossip
Nope not gossip. Youd be sirprised how many dudes on there are married, engaged, or taken otherwise. Hell there was a guy that got posted a week before his wedding. Its not about you. Its women protecting themselves. We arent trying to waste our time.
ETA: theres a healthy expectation that if you havent dicussed being exclusive that its ok to talk to multiple people at the same time. Its also heavily upvoted if you post a positive review. We just wanna know we are safe and not dating someone not available
That’s not gossip. That’s “is it safe for me to continue talking to this person”.
Run. She’s a bad risk.
NTA. She was trying to protect herself. And you are just doing the same. She just met you and is plastering your info and/or pics on social media, without asking first. Imagine what else she could have done later on in a potential relationship.