So, I’m about to fly out and see my friend across the country but I’ve sort of a hit roadblock. My friend loves cars, and coinciding with his car passion, he unfortunately loves to speed. I, am quite literally the exact opposite and drive 5-10 over the speed limit at maximum and understand the true ramifications of my actions when I drive. However, my friend will regularly push his car to the limit, and when I meet him, wants to speed up to 120, which I’ve sort of light heartedly joked over text that I don’t want to do that. I know that getting in an accident at 120 is guaranteed severe injury, if not, death which I obviously have NO INTENTION of doing, I have a lot to live for and do. I’ve expressed this to him before when I lived near him and he understood my concerns and I do have to say, did keep the speeding to a minimum. But judging by the way he was texting about going 120 when I fly in has me really concerned, which I obviously will repeat and affirm again in person that at no point will he be going anything over 100 with me in the car. Part of me doesn’t want to let the rest of the friend group down since they are all into it but I really do prioritize my safety, and I’m afraid he’ll look at me like I’m some sort of bitch, which I guess whatever. I’ve seen countless videos of the aftermath of drunk driving or reckless driving in general and it’s shook me to my core. People who lived normal lives had their lives completely turned around in mere seconds, and to me that’s something I have 0 intention of being in the car doing. My only option if he didn’t stop speeding with me in the car would be taking Uber or something since I would not have a car of my own to use while I’m there. Like at the end of the day he’s a good person and I love him to my core but as much as I trust him, I can’t trust him behind the wheel and I feel like I’m at the mercy of what he wants to do if I do sit in that passenger seat. I don’t want to become another statistic or a mangled hunk of flesh in his passenger seat, it just disturbs me to my core.
WIBTA if I did express these concerns to him and refuse to enter his car if he doesn’t trust that he won’t speed with me in it?
Nta. Just dont go out in the car with him. Ive always had fast cars, but the one rule is if you want to speed do it on your own. You’re responsible for passengers. If you crash and injure yourself then thats fair enough. Couldn’t imagine it happening with someone else in the car. Would feel guilty forever
Question: when you say 120, do you mean km/h or mph? One is a little quick and maybe unreasonable to refuse to step foot in a car, and the other is balls out insanity fast where you can lose control at any moment and kill everyone in the car if you hit a big enough pothole
MPH
Jesus. 100 mph i would refuse to ever get in the car with that person
I just want to get home in one piece man.
Rent a car….you never think it’s gonna happen to you but sometimes that lil intuition you get, comes as a warning! The world may just be trying to tell you something. Always trust your gut!
YWBTA if you got in the car with him. He should not be driving.
Hire a car.
I’d say your gut feeling is the universe telling you NOT to get in the car with this guy
NTA do not ride anywhere with this dude
NTA at all.
We just had two teens pulverized in our town from an irresponsible teen driver they got in the car with.
NTA – I did this with my younger brother. I had told him I wasn’t getting in the car with him driving.
I was on crutches and a chronic asthmatic. I needed to get home which was about a kilometre. My brother was the only person at Mum’s and said he’d drop me off. I said no, but I had no money, so I started walking. I had to stop and use my inhaler 4 or 5 times, It took me around an hour. He followed me in the car the whole way.
He started driving a little better and around 6 months later I got back in a car with him driving.
NTA. Would you forgive him if you ended up paralyzed from the neck down? Who would take care of you financially? Who would feed you and clean your poop bag? I am not joking.
NEVER let stupid people impact you when you have a choice. Your friend sounds reckless as heck. Sadly, he will probably kill or mame someone else not himself.