**Ages: Me (F14), Friend (F16)**
I (F14) have been best friends with this girl (F16) for about six years. We met in sixth grade right after she moved in next door, and we became inseparable. Even though we were in different grades, it never made a difference as we were neighbors and spent almost every day together. She was always my number one friend.
It became more and more difficult when she went to high school and I was still in middle school. While in high school, she met and became friends with a girl who was openly mean to memaking fun of my clothes, hair, and body. My best friend laughed along instead of defending me, which really hurt.
Once she stopped being friends with that girl, her attitude toward me changed. She became ruder. Even though we grew apart and didnt have much in common anymore, I tried hard to keep her in my friend group because she told me several times that I was her only friend and she had no one else.
Eventually, she started making hurtful jokes at my expensecalling me big (my name) even though she knows Im insecure about my body, insulting my hair (which I already get bullied for), and calling me stupid or saying she hated me in a joking manner.
When I started talking to a boy for the first time, I was really excited and told her. She immediately broke down crying in front of me, saying things like Im ugly and Ill never have a boyfriend, which made me feel guilty for liking someone. Later, he asked me to Homecoming. At the dance, she repeatedly flirted with him even after I asked her to stop, and when we slow danced, she screamed loudly the entire time and ruined the moment.
After this, I calmly reached out to her and told her I didnt like how she had been treating me and asked if she noticed anything off in our friendship. She apologized and asked me to explain what she did wrong, which I did. She apologized again and seemed genuinely mature about it.
I realized that I needed some space from the friendship and I made it very clear to her. She said she got it. But not long after, she shared three TikTok videos on her public account making fun of "sensitive friends, " and the captions were definitely for me, saying "How it feels to have a sensitive mf friend who you have to be gentle around or they’ll cry, " "Mad because she made me look like the bully when she’s just sensitive and dumb, " "I hate sensitive people because I wasn’t even mean and she’s so upset" explaining publicly that I was stupid and too sensitive. It was later confirmed that they were about me. I sent her the screenshots with the question of what that was about.She conveyed that she was overwhelmed with emotions and questioned if she wasn’t allowed to express her feelings. She later regretted the TikToks, saying she didnt mean what she said and was just expressing her emotions. I told her I needed some time and haven’t gotten back to her.
**AITA for needing space and pulling back from this friendship???**
Oh baby. This is not your friend. Cut your losses right now so you won’t regret it later. I’m pretty sure she’s only your friend to feel better about herself because of how she views you. Surround yourself with friends that pour into you, not drain you.
If OP truly is this girl’s only friend, it makes you wonder why. I know it’s easy to want to befriend someone that seems lonely, but sometimes they are that way for a reason.
NTA. Ditch her.
Cut her off and move on.
NTA, this is not your friend. You are in different places in life, and this person is projecting her insecurity onto you. I bet that once you remove yourself from this, you will be able to tackle your own insecurities as well without constant negative input. Ask yourself this: will it matter in 4 years once you graduate high school?
Babes this is a nice time to build genuine friendships that will most likely go with you into adulthood. This girl is not your friend and does not intend to be, she is using you to make herself feel better and for your company, in fact from what you are saying she does not rate you but sees you as a stepper to the friends she wants. Maintain even further distance, don’t even explain yourself to her anymore or ask her about her behaviour anymore, she doesn’t deserve your energy. What you will do is remain cordial because you are neighbours, she will catch on and do more videos but don’t let it get to you. You will make genuine friends that will make this stage of your life a good one to remember
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This girl isn’t your friend OP and doesn’t sound stable if she ‘screamed loudly ‘ while you slow danced?! She doesn’t sound like a positive influence in your life,you are NTA and I’d stay well away.
NTA. That said, this girl hasn’t been your friend for a while, so you should end the friendship rather than pull away.
NTA, she sure doesn’t seem like a very good friend.