Me (M) and my girlfriend were at a party with friends. At one point, one of our friends, a gay guy friend kissed my girlfriend on the mouth. I got really pissed and asked her if she could have avoided the kiss. She said yes, but she didn’t want to avoid it.
That’s what bothered me most, the fact that she could’ve stopped it, but chose not to.
I asked her how she would feel if our gay friend kissed me on the mouth. She said that wouldn’t be okay because “he’s attracted to you.” he already tried to kiss me countless times and I always refused.
Then I asked if it would be okay if a lesbian kissed me, and she said no , because “most lesbian girls are bi, and men have sexual fantasies about lesbians.”
Am I overreacting or being controlling?
AITA for feeling cheated?
YTA. This is common gay dude/hag behavior. Stop scoring the world on your straight guy worksheet.
What the hell is this rapy shit.
Ive had a few gay friends over the years, I’ve never had any that just kissed people randomly against their will. The concept of consent is unisex and orientation neutral.
NTA. Your position is valid. But beyond that her world view sounds fricked. Idk why you’re with her, but I’d suggest you carefully reevaluate the pros and cons of this one. She sounds like a real piece of work.
NTA. Your girlfriend is trashy. Insane double standards, and kind of messed up opinions of other people’s preferences.
Well your girlfriend is the AH simply for saying lesbians are bisexual.. I can assure you, we are not.
NTA leave asap bro
NTA. Tell her its a boundary for you. If she does it again, leave.
NTA, cheating is defined differently for every couple. it depends on what makes you uncomfortable, which you clearly are in this situation. also, the double standard your girlfriend is setting up is kind of wild imo. she shouldn’t have kissed another man before discussing the boundaries of your relationship with you.
She cheated on you regardless of old mates sexual preferences
Nta rules for thee but not for me
NTA If she was fine with you being kissed by a lesbian than maybe another story, but she isn’t. So she is TA.
Info: Was this a new year’s eve party? Was the kiss at midnight? Or was it just a random party?
Why aren’t you pissed at the dude that keeps kissing people on the mouth without consent?
She’s TA for her hypocrisy and claiming “most lesbians are bi”. Such trash!