AITA for making more cake when we already have cake and snacks from Christmas?
It’s my youngest Daughters birthday today and it’s always a bit of a challenge to make it special and separate from Christmas. On Sunday she’s having a party at our house and I’ve ordered a party cake. Today she just wants a simple packet mix sponge cake and both her sets of grandparents are coming over then we’re going out for dinner.
My husband has just told me in front of her that there’s no point making another cake when we still have Christmas cake left and a cake coming for Sunday. I know he’s right that we’re not going to be able to eat everything but honestly it’s not about eating all the cake, it’s about singing happy Birthday and offering it to guests.
He’s only expressed this opinion today despite me mentioning it several times this week. AITA for making more food than we need? Thoughts?
You can eat left over Christmas cake on literally any of the other days. Today is not Christmas time, it’s birthday time.
NTA if you want to stand your ground and your husband is TA telling your daughter that 8 day old leftovers is good enough for her birthday.
How old is your daughter? Also in the future don’t make Christmas cake so your daughter is able to have her own birthday cake on her actual birthday. It’s not an absurd request for her to make. Please stand firm that you keep her birthday separate from Christmas because if her birthday was a month earlier or later this wouldn’t even be an issue.
She’s 6, we’ve already eaten half the Christmas cake, so it isn’t like it was expected to be used on her birthday.
I’m making the sponge 👍
My birthday is close to Christmas. People born close to Christmas often get their birthday celebrations ignored because it’s so close to Christmas.
(And although my parents didn’t, other family members would often wrap the birthday present up in Christmas paper. Or “oh, your birthday is so close to Christmas. This is your birthday and Christmas present”.).
Cake can be frozen so I would just stick the Christmas cake in the freezer at this point. Or toss it as it’s probably going stale at this point? I wouldn’t want to offer eight day old cake to guests or at a birthday dinner. NTA.
NTA. AH is a strong word for a minor situation. I will say as someone who doesn’t like to waste food and have excessive things, it does seem unnecessary as it will be wasted. If it were me, I’d get a cupcake for her to celebrate and just give everyone a slice of Christmas cake.
NTA. It’s not about making more food than you need, it’s about making sure the birthday girl feels special. My birthday is tomorrow and believe me when I tell you that she will remember what was done and what wasn’t done for her birthday. Growing up I heard from extended family “I’ll get you something next week. Your birthday is so close to Christmas! You already got so many things for Christmas, do you need more right now?”
You don’t have to make a huge cake, even a 6 in cake just for the family would be perfect. It’s a small effort that she will remember. I’m in my 50’s and I’m making myself a small cake just because I want one on my actual birthday, although I am having dinner with my family on Sunday.
Happy birthday to your daughter, fellow Capricorn!
It doesn’t matter what your husband or what you want because it isn’t your birthday . It’s your daughter ‘s birthday and she has the right to decide
Christmas cake is one of the most easily frozen cakes. Cut it into slices and you can have it frozen for snacks, school lunches and if you’ve got guests over. Bake the cake with your daughter.
My birthday is exactly 2 weeks before Christmas so I get how hard it could be, but I can tell you I remember the birthdays where my parents complained it was too difficult to celebrate more than the birthday’s I celebrated. That shit sticks with you.
NTA
Christmas was over a week ago, that cake is going to be dry and stale. No one wants week old cake for their birthday. NTA
NTA is your husband’s birthday around any holidays? Do this for his birthday and remind him of what he said for his own daughter’s birthday if he feels some sort of way about it.
NTA, but your husband is.
Buy the family some donuts or make a cake ‘just because’ a week before his next birthday, and be sure to save some so it’s not obvious to him at the time. Then, a week later, bring it out, pop a candle or two in it, and give him his cake, and see how he feels, about it.
It’s not about the damn cake, it’s about feeling loved and thought of by those closest to you. And a fresh new cake just for the birthday person helps do that.
You’re NTA
>My husband has just told me in front of her that there’s no point making another cake when we still have Christmas cake left
*Happy Birthday Sweetie, here’s some leftover, stale cake made over a week ago* redefines zero effort.
A cake mix cake is not an unreasonable ask on her actual birthday, even though there’s another party coming.