I have a friend who lies about everything her family, background, life and even drags me to cover up her lies to others. Eventually it damages my mental health and I am unable to trust her so we grew apart. I also developed some feelings of hatred towards her.
Recently, we got our results and my university system is a bit… old school if i may say. We have to write our grades ourselves n get it stamped in office for approval for transcripts.
My problem is she got first place in our whole class n receive 2 awards from non-university students organisations (we submit our results to get that award). Which is weird to me because this friend brags to me n my other friends about her results.
I found a lot of mismatch about her marks which she sends to me when i compare it to the official mark of quiz posted by lecturer in class groupchat.
1. she somehow got 49 when the full mark is only 25
2. she got 50/50 in a subject, when there no subject in which she ever get full marks in the quiz
3. she had to repeat 2 papers meanwhile the student who received 2nd place repeat none
AITA for looking into it and thinking that she lied?
It’s a very unreliable way to do things. Do you hates her or do you question the veracity of her results? Those are two different things.
i think its my hatred that makes me question the veracity of her results?
YTA, but mostly to yourself.
Why would you break your peace to try and make her life make sense?
It’s really not your battle to fight. I can understand the feeling of some sort of moral philosopher in you saying it’s unjust and it’s not okay, paired with your disdain for her.
At the same time, if you don’t have any proof or legitimate concern/course of action to do anything, don’t meddle.
Mind your business, focus on yourself and don’t let her toxicity impact your peace of mind.
Will it affect you in any way?
Will she get things that others should have had?
Yeah it sounds like she could have scammed another student from receiving awards
She get the awards that the “second in line” student should have had, who not repeated papers and lied
NTAH, you care about justice and equity and that’s fair. But you also shouldn’t follow up with her lies, let her do it herself and advise her otherwise.
If you think that the person who got second place needed the first place, maybe talk to them and tell them what u think happened and they can go to the office themselves and tell on her. You stay out of it.
Idk if you’re an asshole or not, but if you dont like this person and their actions, stop being their friend. If it’s affecting your mental health, you can let this friendship go.
I think there are two separate issue here. But hating on anyone’s success whether you think they deserve it or not is never right. I think you need to focus on being content and maybe ending that friendship for your own sake, because you will only grow in envy and hatred towards her if you have a front view of her successes.
The title and the end AITA questions are completely different. YTA either way. If she got an impossible score (and so must have cheated), that will be picked up by the exam boards, you don’t need to play detective over it. If she genuinely did that well (sometimes extra credit marks are available) then you’re being completely unfair just because you don’t like her. Really, you just sound jealous and stop calling her your friend, you hate her so she’s not your friend.
INFO: your university lets students just make up fake results where they lie about how they did, and then outside organizations give awards based on those claims, with no verification?
If the university isn’t actually doing anything to confirm that the transcripts they’re stamping are accurate, then no one outside the university should be putting any weight on any qualification gained there, and there doesn’t seem to be much point raising the issue with them because if they cared they’d be doing something already – this can hardly be the first time someone had the bright idea of just… lying. (If you do want to try to raise a stink, I’d recommend talking to that second place student, who has actual standing to complain about being screwed over.)
its complicated actually, i dont even get my own transcript yet because the management sucks n doesnt want to stamp me unless i paid the tuition of next year, n i had to miss out on deadlines of submitting my transcript to get the award. but i heard there is 2 main problem with students result here:
1. the university doesnt check before stamping
2. the students fabricate it by bringing a copy of untrue results then putting university’s stamp from another student copy
YTA. Your definition of friend is wild. Is it normal for you to “hate” your friends? Stop investing in this non-problem.