So my mom, lets call her Amber, and I, are 2 completely different people. My mom wants a girly girl, but I have always been more of a Tomboy until the last year or two. Still more of a tomboy, but I have widely accepted a variety of stereotypical feminine traits. Im a little bit of a gamer, and ever since i was 9, i have always wanted to be some form of content creator, which i am actually now trying to do, but my laptop is over 8 years old, and crashes while simply running spotify.
I have asked for a gaming pc or a monitor, anything better than what i currently have as it struggles to load anything and everything. So naturally, id ask for an upgrade. Considering my 2 older brothers have always been bought the consoles they ask for without fail, i thought its only fair that i get bought MY FIRST proper laptop or PC, as my laptop is actually a hand-me-down. I have had it for 8 years, but my brother had it before me, so point is: i cannot make proper content, or any form of content i would like to make with my current laptop as it is super old and crashes 24/7.
As my birthday is february 24th, Amber had asked me what i would like for my birthday, and i thoroughly said "ive been asking for years. A monitor or a PC, anything just as long as its better than what i have currently" she had ACTUALLY agreed to get me one, and told me to send her links, but it has to be under £500 which i agreed to, as i was finally getting something ive been asking for FOR LITERALLY half of my life.
I then go downstairs a few hours later to talk about it, and my oldest brother decides to get involved in the conversation, and it ended up as an argument where my mom then stated that she infact "would rather buy a console than a PC" as she claims i will break the PC. This is silly, because 4 years ago FOR CHRISTMAS, my mom gave me my second older brothers hand-me-down Nintendo Switch. I was frilled and super happy.
She then gives it away to my 4 year old brother, her reason? "You dont wash your hands, and you play it too much" i would play minecraft for 1 hour after stressful school days. This brother is now 8 and has broken EVERY controller, most of the game cases AND even my just dance game. She openly said she will be buying him A PLAY STATION, OR AN XBOX for his 9th birthday. This annoyed me deeply because he is 9 and has been given 2 consoles, one of which was MY christmas present that i didnt agree to give up on.
So being 18 and being told she wont buy me a monitor or a PC because ill break it, but is buying an XBOX or Play Station for a 9 yr old who has broken almost everything FOR the nintendo switch that used to be mine, deeply annoys me. So i had a go at her explaining how it doesnt make sense, considering I HAVE NEVER BROKEN MY LAPTOP OR PHONE.
NTA. Keep in mind, you are 18 now, so if she tries to pull stuff like this again, you are absolutely free to stand up to her (though if it gets really bad I’d recommend trying to find new living accommodations if possible). Clearly your mom has some kind of vendetta against you specifically, and you need to call out the blatant favoritism going on here
I have done, any time i call her out for favoritism or taking a keener liking to the others, she always says that im just trying to break the family appart, and will take it as far as telling me to never have kids as ill be a terrible mom, and that she hopes my partner leaves me because im a horrible person “who thinks i know everything” when its simply just common knowledge…
Work on a plan to move out and go low contact; this is abuse
Theres no aita conflict
Youre upset. You are right to be upset. It wont mean nothing
They can favor the siblings with $50k a year and make you beg for $1k a year and it doesnt change anything
Life isnt going to change. They wont magically be better. Start planning your new life of after moving out and being on your own
NTA but you can’t win with some parents. As you’re 18, your best bet may be finding a job (even part time) and getting your own PC or laptop.
NTA for asking for the upgrade or for pointing out her favoritism. It sounds like she favors boys over girls. Strange to be a misogynistic female. Maybe she doesn’t realize she is and you should point it out.
She does 😭🙏 she constantly sounds like a boy mom, literally always saying to “boys are better than girls…girls just cause too many problems and are too hormonal”
I get it can be infuriating when there is obvious gendered favoritism from parents, whether or not you or your mom is the asshole will not change you getting the PC. Consider getting a job and getting the PC yourself.
Ps i would consider not buying expensive stuff while living at home
If your siblings take it, mom will probably let them. If they break it, mom will let them get away with it.
We’ve seen posts like that in the past
THIS
NTA is your mom a boy mom?? gosh i wish u better life when you left home.
NTA. I’m sorry you were dealt a shitty hand as far as parents go. Just focus on moving out and becoming independent as soon as possible. Once you’re on your own, you don’t have to deal with them anymore.