I kept a relationship going until the housing market was in a better position. My partner and I were living together for 2 years, halfway through, I started to have some serious doubts. I tried everything to raise awareness on what was making me unhappy, but I had no response or change in attitude and actions.
I decided to break up with her but waited a couple of months, as a way to give it a bit more time, and because the timing at the moment wasn’t so convenient. I ended up breaking up with her 2 months before our lease ended. I think it was enough time for her to figure out what to do next.
A little bit tbh but you did make awareness prior and nothing changed so she’ll more than likely chalk it up to “I didn’t make things work out” and technically it didn’t you expressed your concerns and feelings and she didn’t care
I think you were pretty considerate for even thinking about her when setting the breakup timeline. Provided you didn’t feel or act differently (that is, you didn’t stay with her JUST because of the housing market, but because you weren’t quite sure, and that you actually had a proper relationship that made you both happy in the interim), I would say you were being tactical but NTA. I think self-preservation is important.
She might feel differently though.
Men do this a lot! A lot of women talk about “my long-term partner makes me go 50/50 to pay off his mortgage, but he earns 3× more than me ”
Then they get dumped as soon as his income goes up enough to wife a woman who would never dream of being used like that!
YTA