Some disclaimers: I am the black sheep of the family & already almost all family members have a problem with me. If not on face, then definitely behind my back.
Long story short, I caught my husband ‘almost’ cheating on me a few months ago, and the whole family got involved (my biggest regret now).
Recently, I disappointed one of my aunts without knowing (typical of me) & she started badmouthing me at a family gathering. She mainly brought up the topic of my cheating husband and how I must have done something to be in this situation. Anyway, I was not present at this gathering & heard all about it from a few family members who still like me (shocking, I know).
So this aunt’s daughter and I are good friends. I decided to take this topic to her and ask her about what happened and why her mother decided to bring up my past like this. I mean, let me know what I did wrong so I can apologize accordingly.
The conversation went from one phrase to another & I ended up saying ‘Your mother shouldn’t do stuff like this because she also has daughters, and we never know what might happen in their marriages.’ My main point was that we should be careful when bringing up people’s past espeically when they had no control over it.
But I guessed I worded it wrong & boom! Another unwelcome fight. She took the conversation in a very wrong way and claimed that I was cursing her and her sister. Apparently, not everyone has a cheating husband, and I should have known better before involving the whole family in the cheating drama.
The lesson I learned was that I can never be fully open when talking to people who seem like my friends. I guess IATA for even thinking I was wronged in this situation. I think the reason I am posting this is to know how to make amends or how to feel less emotional when I am the black sheep.
To finish off, I have already apologized multiple times for my words and for even bringing up the topic in the first place. The said cousin doesn’t want to talk to me and that’s totally understandable.
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