Okay so basically, almost every night from 6 to 10 depending on the day I ask my dad to go in his room as I sleep in the lounge. He always gets mad about it and I tell him I just want some privacy as are house is tiny. It consists of a lounge, bedroom right next to it, and other normal house rooms. If I ask him to go in his room he will almost always reply with no. I will admit I do get quite mad at him there witch is why I feel like I may be the asshole. he will reply why don’t you want to spend time with me. And tries to guilt trip me. It’s just us in the house so I think he gets lonely. But I do spend time with him it’s impossible not to, I won’t tell my exact age but I’m a teenager. All I want is some privacy and he don’t want to get a new house. AITA?
How old are you?
Ask him if you can go in his room instead?
This is tough, you’re a kid and want privacy like we all did at that age. Asking your dad to “go to his room” though is probably not the best way to go about this, you can’t just demand it from him and he has feelings too, and should understand when you’re tired and want to go to sleep. Go about healthy communication, explain to him that you’re just tired and ready for bed, not that you don’t want him around you. It’s their first time living, being parents, and having feelings as well and sometimes it just takes communication to be on the same page about things. It is very unfortunate you don’t have a bedroom though, because then you could just go to your room ya know.
Ask him to switch rooms so you have the bedroom for privacy.
As a parent, I’d rather put my kid in the bedroom.
Otherwise there has to be a regular time when I would need to exit the main living areas so my kid can have some privacy, quiet, and time to wind down/sleep. It could be a good idea to get some curtains/sheets/partitions to make a specific area of the lounge yours and allow yourself to close it up (having privacy). You might also need earplugs or noise canceling headphones so you can have quiet while he’s still out there.
Yeah that was my first thought. I get that it’s probably all their dad can afford but the kid should be in the bedroom. Kids need privacy and a personal space so they can decompress and have alone time to emotionally and mentally regulate.
I don’t understand why dad has the bedroom & you don’t, If this were me, my teenager would have their own room for privacy & I would sleep in the lounge. Whatever the lounge is.
Lounge is basically another term for living room (UK/Australia seem to use it) so OP is probably in one of the Commonwealth countries.
NTA. If there’s one adult and one teenager but only one bedroom, the kid gets the bedroom. Your dad is being selfish for both taking the room and for not allowing you privacy. I’m sorry that you have to deal with this, hope it gets better at some point.
As a kid you don’t get to send your parent to their room lol. But you’re not the asshole for wanting some privacy. You’re gonna have to just have a conversation with him and come to a compromise. If he’s not the compromising type, then start saving your money to move out, you’re almost 18.
Swapping living quarters is the only reasonable solution. When living in cramped quarters, compromise is necessary. From here, it sounds like you don’t have much privacy or personal space. Without that space, it’s understandable that you’re frustrated because there’s ALWAYS someone in your space and it feels like you cannot just decompress. Honestly, if he doesn’t want to go to his room then he should consider swapping, or reconsidering space usage.
You aren’t the asshole. I seriously hope anyone who says you are doesn’t have kids.
This wouldn’t be an issue for any decent parent because bedroom always goes to the kid. Just safety wise a child should not be living in the main area of a house instead of an adult. Has he always had the bedroom and you the living room???
You either have to ask your dad if he’s willing to live in the living room and give you the bedroom since he doesn’t want to give you any ability to have alone time, or suck it up until you’re 18 and move out asap. Do you have a job? I’d start saving.
I dont think so but more info needed?
Is the lounge your bedroom or still the lounge and you just sleep there?
Is he running about at like midnight or is this at 6pm?
Do you live there full time or is it single parents and you visit situation?
If you foster, it is required that they have their own room. SOOOO