AITA so I am currently visiting family in Florida. My sister & my 2 nieces. We have not seen them in a 1 1/2 years since my dad died & we have not been here in 5 years. I got a beautiful rental & they’re welcome to come to anytime. we even offered to have them sleepover. They are 17 & 19 & my boys are 18, 13, & 11.
yesterday we were having a great night everyone was here except for my youngest niece who just turned 17 right after Christmas. She stopped here after work, & I thought she was going to be spending some time with us. We were cooking, making crazy concoctions & just being silly & having fun. She came in like a bat out of hell. she had just gotten done working & started screaming at her mother because her mother didn’t bring her the right clothing for her to change into. I sat back letting it go on for about 15 minutes, listening to her yell at her mother & tell her it’s not the right clothes & she told her what she wanted and she texted her & she can’t believe she brought the wrong stuff blah blah blah. After about 15 minutes, I had to say something. I said sweetheart I really think the way you’re speaking to your mother is extremely inappropriate. She tried to do her best bringing the clothing that you wanted but the way you’re talking to her is so disrespectful. She started mouthing back to me to which I did not respond well too.I then brought myself into the conversation and said she needed to show her mother more grace and gratitude. she wanted specific clothing so she could go down to the beach and meet a boy. Please keep in mind she had gone down and met the same boy the night before & when I looked at her last night I noticed she had multiple hickeys on her neck. I guess I was under the assumption that we were all going to be hanging out and spending time together because we’re only here for two weeks and I don’t know the next time we will see each other. So my sister took her keys and then she started flipping out saying, give me my keys back it’s my car and escalated even more. I was now furious and said to her you need to respect your mother. I then excused myself & went outside with my boys to let them fight it out themselves because I was disgusted.
after about 20 minutes, she came outside & apologized to me, but the apology consisted of her telling me she didn’t like the way that I came at her & attacked her & she didn’t really feel it was any of my business to get involved. I listened to her apology & then explained to her that she was not going to be getting an apology for me. That this is my home right now because I’m renting and that is not the kind of behavior that I tolerate in my home.I was standing up for her mom because the way she was treating her was so disrespectful & disgusting. I said she may need to reevaluate her priorities.
To my surprise when I went inside. Somehow they had made up & she had manipulated her mother into going to the beach & now I was the asshole for getting involved. So AITA?