I’m 25M, and my friend is 25M as well. He needed a ride to meet a girl, and even though I didn’t have so much time since my fav football team was playing, I agreed to take him and I just asked him politely to not smoke in my car, that’s my only one rule. He promised me that he will not do it and he thanked me(he even hugged me). In the middle of the way he lighted a cigarette. I was really out of words. I stopped the car and told him to open the door and get outside. Now he is making me feel like a monster and he is calling me dramatic. AITA?
NTA cigs are gross!! I can legit smell when someone has been smoking and comes into our office building. It lingers and is disgusting. He agreed prior so why he’s up in arms for you reinforcing that boundary is beyond me.
NTA.
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You said your one rule and he agreed! The second he lit up was the moment he CHOSE to ignore your POLITE request, so NO, you were within your rights to stop the car and make him smoke outside. Actually, I’d have pulled away and left his butt on the side of the road, too!
NTA. Not smoking is so easy to follow and is generally the right thing to do in anyone else’s car. He’s just mad because you stood your ground and didn’t let him bulldoze your rules.
NTA. I’m a former pack a day smoker, and I would never assume I could smoke in a non-smoker’s car. Being explicitly told no? No way I ever would. Your rule is very common and understandable, and he’s the AH for not respecting that
NTA. He can’t keep his word for the duration of 1 car ride, making him clearly the AH here. You set a boundary and enforced it, being upset makes him the dramatic one
NTA he couldn’t respect your one rule???
NTA – I’m all for firm boundaries, which you set and held. However, is there any reason he couldn’t just be asked to throw the cig out? Either way, your “friend” is TA.
NTA. He didn’t like the FO part of the FAFO ride he was on. He lacks respect for you. Was happy to ask a favor and give you the lip service of agreeing to your rule, without a real intent to follow it. Being kicked out is a perfect natural consequence. Now you’ve each learned something important about each other – about him you’ve learned he is disrespectful and takes advantage of friendships, about you he’s learned you enforce your rules and won’t be walked on. This is a win-win for you as far as I’m concerned.
NTA! You told him the rule before he got in, he agreed to it, then lit up anyway. I’d have driven off after he got out, tbh.
NTA. You made your rule clear. Second hand smoke is still bad for you, plus it takes forever to get the smell out. I wouldn’t let that in my car or home either
NTA
I get it won’t be ruined in one cigarette but smoking in a car can reduced the value of the car. It’s disgusting.
NTA, your car your rules.
Oh hell no. If you light up a cigarette in *MY* car? I would stop the car and kick you out.
I once had a gf’s friend literally whip out a small weed pipe and start taking hits while I was driving (we were in high school). I told her to put that shit away immediately or else she’d be walking.