Tomorrow is my birthday, and I never planned to celebrate it because I already committed to working that day. I confirmed with management **back in December** that I would still be reporting to work on my birthday.
Only **today**, my girlfriend suddenly told me she had planned a small celebration because she decided it was a “special day” for me. I appreciated the thought, but the timing made it impossible. I still tried asking a coworker to cover my shift at the last minute, but management refused since the schedule was already finalized and couldn’t be changed on such short notice.
Now my girlfriend is furious because her plans fell through, and instead of understanding the situation, she’s been taking her frustration out on me and cursing at me, even though I never asked for the celebration and had already made my work commitment months ago.
So AITA if I just ignore her for today and go to work like I originally planned?
Your girl can feel hurt, but she didn’t check your availability before making plans on your behalf. That’s on her. Not you.
She can stop with the frustration and bitching anytime now as it’s your birthday. If she keeps at it, she’s a crappy gf.
Did she know you’d be working and still only told you the day before? That’s really poor planning on her part. She can’t be mad at you for that. Totally get that it sucks that she made plans you’re unable to attend but she shot herself in the foot not telling you till now
Forgot to add this, but yes, I already informed her that I’ll be working on my birthday.
After the our manager rejected my leave, she said that I should’ve not state that I’ll be celebrating my birthday. Instead, I should’ve said that I’m sick. lol
Wow your girlfriend’s morals are selfish and bad. Just eeww on both accounts. (I e. That she wanted you to lie and for her own selfish purpose of wanting to throw you a party)
Nta good luck with a woman like that
Frankly I’ve never understood the obsession people have with celebrating/not working on their birthday. Celebrate on another day, doesn’t matter when as long as it’s fun and you are with people you love or care about
NTA. Yikes.
I’m not suggesting that you *would* have been the asshole had you just decided to go to work as scheduled—but you even *asked* to be rescheduled and your management said no! WTF are you supposed to do, quit your job without notice because your girlfriend planned a party for you without even asking you if you were available?
NTA. This is *all* on her.
>she’s been taking her frustration out on me and cursing at me
Frankly, I wouldn’t put up with anyone *cursing* at me even if it *had* been my fault.
Ah yes, the classic “I planned something without asking you, so now you should suffer the consequences.” Totally reasonable. Next time I’ll just tell my boss, *“Sorry, my girlfriend made plans.”*
Sounds like this cursing behavior is only one of the red flags. You sure you want to be with someone who takes things out on you? Especially when it’s her fault? Even more so when she’s supposedly trying to do something nice for you? Sounds like it’s all about her.
And Happy Birthday!
Does your girlfriend not understand how jobs and employment work? Apparently not.
You should of course go to work as originally planned. You’ve made a commitment to do so and presumably you want to keep your job and be on good terms with your supervisor.
But the main event here is the way your GF is reacting. Is she generally this irrational and hostile? Does she often take her frustrations out on you and curse at you? If so, you might want to sit down and give the situation a whole lot of thought.
NTA
NTA
if someone is doing something FOR you, it should be at a convenient date and time. and also it’s immature to curse someone out for a scheduling conflict imo