**UPDATE 2: Let me preface by saying the parents and I have been friends for going on a decade. When I apologized, the babies mother said she understands that I wasn’t trying to be malicious but that I did overstep and didn’t consider the other factors. I told her I agree that I did and I was completely out of line.**
**UPDATE: Most of you are saying ITA, I completely agree. Sometime I have a hard time recognizing that, so I try to get others judgment on the situation. I reached out to the parents and apologized.**
Just want to say, I probably am the asshole but I want to make sure. Anyways, I am the babies god father. I understand I have no standing whatsoever over the baby. However the babies mother created a registry and I saw a cheap baby monitor on there. I reached out to the mother just letting her know my intentions on getting them an even better one.
She replied that she didn’t want Wi-Fi due to privacy concerns, I’ll respect it and not buy it then. But I went on to explain how it’s not like it used to be and it’s much harder to hack. I have a background in security over the last 8 years and she knows this, it’s my niche. She goes on to tell me she done her research and I’m essentially wrong. Ok that ticked me off but I respected her decision and let her know I understand it’s her choice and right and I just wanted to give her unsolicited advice on that aspect.
Her husband (my best friend) called me to talk about it. Apparently I pissed her off, with that conversation. Below is how the short conversation went. I would like to know, if I’m the asshole or what.
Me-The baby monitor you chose is cool and all, but I’m getting you a really good one. You guys will want peaceful sleep as much as possible and it will help
Babies mom- The baby will be asleep in our room with us, we don’t have a room for the nursery, and I don’t want a monitor that is Wi-Fi based
Me- Why no wifi? Just curious
Babies mom- Easier to be hacked into and I don’t want any creeps watching my baby.
Me- Oh trust me that won’t be an issue, but I’ll respect it. But really wanna let you know, it’s easier to hack ghosts phone than a baby monitor.
Babies mom- I understand where you’re coming from, but I’ve done research, I’ve looked into things, I’ve formed my own opinion on them and we have picked the things that work for the life we have right now.
I only have one chance to be a mom and to protect my child. (Respect it)
Me-Nope totally respect it. 10000000 percent your choice. Just wanted to give my unsolicited advice.
And then left on read.
YTA: she said no, and then you kept giving what *you yourself* describe as unsolicited advice.
Uumm… millions of parents (and their children) have survived no/low-tech monitors. These parents have made their choice, and you kept pushing your opinion. YTA.
YTA. WiFi usually means cloud based. And to trust a cloud based service with your most intimate core of your family takes a lot of balls.
I would not put any trust in it and I work in the field .
DECT is absolutely fine and the radiation is also less strong. There is no evidence that WiFi harms a toddler, but DECT is less strong and why risk it without benefit?
Also the obvious: nobody asked you and your solution doesn’t seem to fit their needs.