I (F18) have always had a rough relationship with my father (M48). He was never the best person towards me and I’ve always kept a respectful distance between us for a while.
I’m graduating today from a special program where I did 2 diplomas at the same time (High school and a DEP (in Canada) in Computer Science) so that’s why I’m graduating later than normal High Schools.
He wasn’t invited to my Pre-Prom event at my school and when he found out I’d invite my step-father instead (He’s always been the better father figure), he didn’t like it and insulted me. We didn’t talk for 4 months after that (July to November) and texted me in the beginning of November to ask me what I wanted for my birthday.
He’s never supported my education, financially and emotionally. I only have 2 tickets for people to come with me and I invited my mother and my older brother.
AITA?
NTA, its your graduation, your tickets. You invited the people who actually supported you. Thats not petty, thats boundaries
NTA. You’re inviting people who have been there for you, and the limit of the tickets makes this an extra easy decision given your dad’s behavior. Congrats on your graduation!
NTA. If he wasn’t there financially and/or emotionally, then… He wasn’t a father.
Some fathers can’t be there financially, but he’ll, emotionally???? Plus, he insulted you. Why would you do that unless you’re a screwup or a narcissistic sh*t ?
Two tickets… Two people who are there for you no matter what. You could even have a ticket for your dog !!!
Definitely NTA and congratulations 🎉
Congratulations on your graduation!! Well done. Do well in life and good luck with your career. You did the right thing. No need to feel sad. Important people will be on your graduation, your mother and brother. No AITA at all.
NTA. It’s always the Dads who do the least, kick up the biggest fuses when they realise there are consequences for their actions – or rather inactions.
Your graduation, your day, your support system. It’s not your job to coddle a grown ass man.
NTA. You can invite anyone you like to your graduation. If your father is not amongst them, then that’s completely fine. He sounds like a real nasty one anyways.
NTA, especially given you only have two tickets.
But, you need to realize this will probably impact your already difficult relationship with him. I’m not saying that’s the wrong choice for you – it doesn’t sound like he’s been very supportive and of course that must hurt, and I’m betting there’s *years* of other stuff contributing to a rough relationship (been in not your exact shoes but had a very rough relationship with my biological father).
Is it “fair” he’d get an invite when he hasn’t been supportive, or “deserve” one just because he’s your father? Not in my opinion.
However, IF and only if you think there’s a relationship (for your sake, not just to placate his feelings) there you’d like to improve as an adult, I would consider inviting him if you could arrange for an additional ticket or if it doesn’t matter to you/brother that much for him to attend.
Regardless, congratulations!
I feel like there’s more going than what you’ve told us so you’re probably not