So yesterday i was driving three of my friends back home from school. 2 of my friends live on the west side like me and one of them lives on the east side. my friend who lives on the east side wanted me to drive 6 blocks east to drop him off at bus station, but in the after school traffic that would add 15 minutes to my drive and the drive of the rest of my friends.
I had university applications and homework to do, so I dropped him off at a bus stop as close as possible to where he wanted but not out of my way, and I told him this beforehand. He was still really mad and won’t speak to me today, calling me selfish and a fake friend, asking me to apologize even though I still saved him time. I feel like I am in the right, and he should apologize to me for being ungrateful.
AITA for not driving him all the way to the bus stop he wanted to go to, or is he for not being grateful and making a big deal out of not a big deal situation.
NAH. Y’all should just accept y’all not that cool with each other. A nice bronze level friend. Not everyone is gold, thats cool. No reason for either to get mad.
NTA and he should apologize
Do not drive him again. A fake friend is someone who doesn’t appreciate a friend when they go out of their way for them and feel entitled for the friend to do more.
I mean…this all depends on the conversation you had before he got into the car. Where did he THINK you were driving him? Where did YOU think you were dropping him off?
Get that clear first.
Kind of soft YTA…6 blocks is not much, nor is 15 minutes.
OP: “and I told him this beforehand”.
Question?
Why would you even offer them a ride, or them assume one? Sounds like secondary school, so busses/transportation AND pretty much every one I’ve seen (assuming public transportation) has a bus stop in the vicinity should they not wish to ride a school bus…
Also, ‘no, I’m not going that direction’ works fine…
NTA – when someone’s doing you a favor, you take what you’re offered. He should’ve been grateful you gave him a ride at all, not mad he didn’t get exactly what he wanted. Seems a little entitled.
(This is assuming he hasn’t done you any massive favors lately, or doesn’t regularly go out of his way to give you rides, etc)
NTA
I’m assuming he asked you? if so, he has no right to criticize as you’re giving him a service. Gas ain’t cheap, and you’re giving him your time AND gas.
Tell him to pay for some of your gas if he really wants you to drop him off (though don’t charge as high as an Uber haha).
INFO: I just don’t understand why he was included in the group of kids you were driving home from school when his house was in the opposite direction of where you were driving? Why did he get in the car with you?
Info did you offer him a ride/agree to give him one then late change your mind or did he just get into the car and demand one
Was the location he wanted safer? Was there a significant difference in wait times, is one sheltered vs. unsheltered?
I can’t decide but it’s clear your friend thinks you are an AH and that’s the one that matters. I fail to see how an extra 15 minutes would be that big of a deal for you and your friends. We aren’t talking about hours of time.
I will go for ESH.
Nta sucks.not having a car