I am 17F my friend is 18F few days ago she was talking abt her 60 year old crush’s glow up I told her I don’t wanna hear abt her 60 year old crush such an age gap makes me uncomfortable (I got groomed by one at 11) but she said it anyway and she also was telling me all the +18 stuff she wants to do w her future husband I am asexual and she knows I get uncomfortable w stuff but she didn’t take me seriously .
today we talked abt him again I told her to shut up (jokingly) then she said this is the last time I tell u abt my preference then I said “I never asked u too nor do I wanna hear abt a teen wanting a fossil to clap their cheek” then she said thank u for showing me cuz Ik how to look at u and sorry for making u hear that the other day.
its almost like she wants me to feel bad for not wants hear those stuff we also got into a fight a year ago for somthing similar to this (I think life wants me to learn a lesso) where basically she doesn’t take my feelings seriously and when I do the same for her she gets upset and acts cold ,pushes me away and expects me to run after her like a dog to fix our relationship
Shes probably uncomfortable with it herself and wants your validation.
NTA.
” – today we talked abt him again I told her to shut up (jokingly) then she said this is the last time I tell u abt my preference then I said “I never asked u too nor do I wanna hear abt a teen wanting a fossil to clap their cheek” then she said thank u for showing me cuz Ik how to look at u and sorry for making u hear that the other day. – ”
What does this mean?
he was brought up in our conversation I made fun of her type (we both do it to each other) then she says that she doesn’t want to talk about her type w me and my friends anymore (she always says that but doesn’t do it) like now ik how I should preserve u (like I broke her trust something like that I didn’t understand what she meant by this either)
I would suggest formaldehyde or vinegar if you’re on a budget.
Huh I’m sorry i don’t understand are trying to crack a joke? I’m autistic I rlly don’t in
” how I should preserve u”
FOrmaldehyde and vinegar are both preservatives. Yes, I’m trying to crack a joke
NTA but also maybe she needs support. it’s not necessarily normal to seek out a relationship like that
Yes she seemed to have an okay relationship w her father (like she isn’t getting abused physically or mentally maybe neglect?) I said it’s not normal to like older men unless u have daddy issues then she said she does have them and that her dad doesn’t talk to her ( idk if that’s neglect or abuse I have an amazing dad)
or maybe she just likes more mature men
She probably likes the money that comes with each date
NTA
Your friend is not respecting your boundaries. It is that simple.