For reference I am 20 years old, still living at home, and have a full time job.
So today my mom and I are going over some stuff. Like future plans, me taking over some bills, etc. Like financial stuff. When doing this, she wants to log into my bank account and know exactly how much is in it. But in my opinion, I think that is my business only and all that matters is that if I’m able to pay what I need to, not for her to know exactly what I have.
She doesn’t have full access to my bank account but what she does is she sits me down and forces me to log in, and if she’s unhappy with the amount, makes me scroll through my transactions and gives me a huge lecture.
I have a problem putting my foot down with her sometimes but goddamn it I need to have something that’s my own. Who cares how much I EXACTLY have, if I’m able to make a budget and pay what I need to that’s all that matters in my opinion.
So AITA for wanting to keep my finance information to myself?
EDIT: I am living at home for free but in the past I have offered to help out many times, which she has always refused. I also haven’t done something so financially irresponsible in the past to warrant the constant checking. And yes, I do plan on moving out.