My girlfriend likes to take pictures of things we eat outside. Most of the times, we order different dishes, so she takes the picture of every dish for "variety", or whatever.
I’m always aware of it whenever we order, she doesn’t have to mention it. I consider it a small thing, never had any issue. Today we went to mall and later decided to have lunch at a restaurant. One of the things we ordered and arrived first was Paneer tikka.
For those who don’t know, Paneer tikka means a wooden stick having 3-5 chunks of cottage cheese marinated in spices. We got two sticks in the plate, each had 4 chunks.
As soon as it arrived, she gave it a glance and went to the washroom to pee. I was hungry, I knew she would have a click of it, but I waited for a min and then took one of the chunks, thinking it doesn’t matter much, it’s just one piece and overall, I prioritize hunger over pictures.
But when she came back, she wasn’t happy with one sticks having 4 chunks while the other mine (mine) having 3 as it ruin the "aesthetic", apprently. She got a little moody about it, I was miffed too, thinking like what’s the matter
prioritizing hunger over pictures which she always takes anyways, I ate just 1 piece from MY stick, hers was untouched. The fact that such a trivial thing kinda ruined the whole lunch. Was I being the A here for taking my ground on it and not even thinking of apologizing or showing that I’m sorry???
NTA if it was important to her she should have taken the picture before she left for the washroom
This here.
It makes it feel more like a control play that she walked away right after food arrived when she doesnt want it eaten until after the food Pic.
NTA. Your GF is self-centered and shallow. And possibly making power plays—waiting to go to the bathroom when the food arrives and expecting you not to touch it is a jerk move.
Ruining the “aesthetic” ruined her mood and appetite? This girl is too immature for a relationship. What if there was a long line at the bathroom, how long were you expected to wait? Food pics are fun, but she’s taking it way too seriously. Big NTA
NTA
She saw the food before going to the bathroom, but instead of taking pictures first she decided to make you wait while looking at the food. Wtf is this? Some sort of obedience training?
When she complained about them not looking the same I would have evened them up straight away.
Eyes rolling back so far in my head.
No, you’re NTA. She didn’t prioritize clicking pictures of the food either. Instead, she went to the bathroom. She had all the time in the world to go before the food came, but waited till it was served. If it was that big of a deal she should have gone sooner, had her camera ready to snap a picture when it was served. That way she keeps you (and anybody else at the table) from having to wait longer to eat. Her priorities suck, and she’s rude.