My daughter (15F) asked to attend an out of district school 3.9 miles from home. I (40F) agreed under the stipulation that she get herself to school. She agreed. I purchased her a nice (not ebike) bike and all its accouterments, including a bike lock.
While picking her up on a rainy day (I drop her off/pick her up in inclement weather), I noticed she hadnt locked her bike and reminded her it would get stolen if she didnt.
She ignored me. The bike was stolen a few weeks later. I purchased a used bike for cheap and fixed it up. She is now using this old, beat up, but in great working condition bike.
I drive her sibling (9M) to school. Their schools have different schedules (His = 0800 to 1530. Hers = 0720 – 1420). I feel he is too young to bike 2.7 miles to school and it is very close (1.2m) to my job (else I would pay for him to ride the bus, which isnt an option for her, since she is out of district.)
My plan was to get her an ebike when i got my bonus, but I dont feel I can trust her to protect a pricey ebike. I also feel that would send her the wrong message about valuing and caring for her belongings.
She is frustrated/angry that I drive her bro to school and not her, and that I wont buy her an ebike. Am I the asshole?