I (38) am friends with my friend April (42) fake name, who got married last Saturday to James (43). I helped my friend plan her wedding along with her mum and another bridesmaid Millie.
I left the wedding early so wasn’t there for the dances, but but I have been getting awful texts.
Firstly, I’ve been accused of "man handling" an old woman and having no respect for Chinese culture. When April’s mum announced the married couple, the doors opened and April and James began walking down the red carpet. Everyone was at the sides of the carpet clapping, James’s grandmother suddenly began walking across the red carpet. I honestly thought she was confused and gently guided her back to the side so the couple could pass. I did not mean to disrespect their culture.
Secondly, I’ve been accused of destroying Mary’s moment. As I had helped with the wedding, I knew who were the people meant to make the speeches and in which order. Lee wasn’t on the list, so was concerned when he grabbed the microphone of Alex. Lee said he knows she’s wanted this and looked at Mary and bent down. I immediately rushed to their table and grabbed the microphone and said something like "whilst Lee is tying his shoe laces, I just wanted to say it’s a blessing to know April and James and may they have many wonderful years together" I then shoved the microphone back to Alex who then stood up and said his speech.
Millie became violently sick, which we assume is the noro virus. I took her home and looked after her and her baby, when the sitter left. I noticed today that I had been invited to a WhatsApp group called "wedding ruined by dog". I joined to see text after text of Mary, Lee and some of James’s cousins calling me names and accusing me of ruining the wedding. I didn’t want to ruin Apil and James’s honeymoon so called April’s mother in tears. She told me, she was grateful, but I don’t know if she’s just saying that because I couldnt control my shaky voice. Millie only remembers her willing herself not to vomit. AITA