My cousin Sophia and I both live in the same city. My other cousin Claire, who lives in a different city came for a weekend visit. Claire decided to stay with Sophia on Friday night and then with me on Saturday night and then leave on Sunday to go back home. She stayed with Sophia Friday night. On Saturday, She packed her stuff and came to mine but towards the evening Sophia called saying that she needed help because she had gotten an emergency call for an overnight job and wanted Claire to come and stay at her place again to help watch her dog overnight.
As Claire was a visitor and not familiar with the place or the city I decided to go with her to Sophia‘s and spend the night there with her so she wouldn’t be alone. I drove over and parked in Sophia’s one spot. We had an enjoyable evening and got along looking after the dog. The next day we were hanging around, waiting for Sophia to get back from the job. Once she got back she immediately got annoyed that I was parked in her spot and wanted me to go move my car so she could park there. I got annoyed and said I pivoted the night to come help you out while you were in a bind and could she not park on the street and when I take Claire to the airport she can get her spot back. She said no that why should she park on the street when it’s her spot.
Here is where I might be the AH. I said in that case I think it’s time for me to go and since I was taking Sophia to the airport I asked her to get her stuff and put them in the car so we could give Claire her parking spot back. So AITA? The only reason I was there was to help look after her dog, wouldn’t a nice thank you for the last minute help be to just park on the street rather than making me move. Or should I have moved my car to the street and come back to pick up Sophia’s things before going to the airport.
Soft YTA. I think that you shouldn’t have parked in Sophia’s spot in the first place.
NTA
NTA, you were doing Sophia a favour by being Claire’s transport and company, and she wasn’t using her spot. Not a big deal for her to park on the street for a few hours.
In the beg the post Claire is from out of town, but in the end it’s Sophia who needs being driven to the airport. A bit confusing to say the least.
Anyway – the one complaining about you parking in her spot is TAH. (And why did I think of Sheldon Cooper just now?)
LOL a little different because Sheldon wanted a parking spot when he didn’t even have a car.
More like “You’re in my spot!”
If I say that to my dog she’ll move and sit/lie somewhere else. 😉
Well if it’s his spot on the sofa he definitely had dibbs by then he called it lol.
Really? If I say that to my cat he’ll just look up at me and look back down again without moving another muscle. I know he knows what I want he just doesn’t care because he moves as soon as I walk towards him like im gonna pick him up
My two cats as well. Standard setting for cats: Don’t give a f”ck
But yes, my dog really does that. She’ll also bring me my slippers when I ask her to or when I come home.
ESH.
Sophia was asking a favor of Claire to stay with the dog. You did the favor of driving Claire to Sophia’s, so of course you used her spot, and you stayed in part so that you could still visit with Claire. Sophia’s an AH for getting upset about the spot.
I’m assuming that Sophia was double-parked during this discussion, because otherwise she would have already parked on the street and it would make absolutely no sense to move 2 cars afterward. Regardless, you had to load Claire’s stuff and it was reasonable to keep the spot until the airport.
But I’m going to say you’re also AH for getting snippy about it and ending the visit early, just because you didn’t want to move your car. You could have given Sophia a little grace for being tired after working all night.
Please enlighten me here – I really don’t understand how parking in someone’s spot for a few hours can cause a problem.
There must be some context I’m missing. Probably something cultural (I’m from Scandinavia) or legal.
I’m not asking to be a jerk – I’m genuinely curious.
In the US, depending on where you live in the city, it can be super difficult to find parking near your apartment because all the parking spots on the street are already taken. Sometimes you have to park relatively far away from where you live, which can really be a pain in the ass depending on the weather.
For example, I live in a city that rains a lot. If I didn’t have a reserved parking spot at my apartment, it could easily take me 10-20 minutes to find parking nearby and another 5-20 minutes to walk home from wherever I parked. And there’s a good chance I’d be walking home in the rain.
NTA Talk about being ungrateful. I get she may have been tired from working all night, but it was ridiculous for her to bother you about moving your car instead of just finding a spot since you guys were doing her a favor.
I can understand some justification in you using her spot overnight, but would also argue that you also could have parked elsewhere. But that’s debatable, and once you get past that debate, yes, when she got home and asked you to move your car, you should’ve just move your car. It’s her parking spot and she pays for that spot. Not you. She shouldn’t have to park on the street. If I come home from work and you’re parked in my driveway and I can’t pull into my garage, you better believe I’m gonna ask you to move your car.