I’m 19yo, 5’6" tall, blond, have good and harmounious facial features, and a little overweight (edit: 172lbs, about 26% BF). Not the best starter pack in life, but not bad, either. I can’t do anything in regards of my height but I can improve my appearance by losing the pounds I have to lose (about 15).
Yet, I’ve never been the object of interest of a girl. Most of the time, I look at them and they don’t seem approachable, even for casual talk without romantic intention.
In the last year, three girls have started conversations with me. 2 of them asked for my Insta (basically cold approached me with romantic intentions) and one just started a platonic conversation. But some girls look at me with a disgusted face, even though I mostly avoid looking at women I don’t know.
What do I do so that girls become interested in me?
Maybe you give off free candy in my van vibes.
Stop thinking of yourself as “quite handsome” maybe
grow
Sounds like a personality issue, then.
Lol. Dude. Don’t believe your grandma when she said girls will be fighting over you. Consider yourself lucky if girls ask you for your insta. Most guys won’t even experience that
It’s probably not about your looks, then. You didn’t mention anything actually important about who you are.
Your appearance should not be the most interesting thing about you, especially if it’s only describable as “not bad.”
If I had a Nickle from all the women who found me unattractive they would all find me attractive. Lol
Work on your career and your life plan. Be seen as confident and driven, be funny and you will do fine.
If you were handsome you’d actually get attention. You sure have a high opinion of yourself
You are short and overweight. One you can fix, the other you will have to compensate for (great personality, or money).
Is this AI or do you really talk like this “cold approached me with romantic attentions”.
You’ve just described yourself as short and overweight. My advice: control what’s in your control. Lose fat and gain muscle (which it sounds like you will do). Be approachable by being kind and funny. Good luck.
You need to understand what a women’s priorities are. Do you think for a women “handsomeness” is really high on their checklist? For guys sure we do put more value in a women’s beauty generally, but in most cases do you think women think the same? If you really want female attention, then have you tried thinking from their perspective?
Um… well, step one, try dating the girls who approach you with romantic intentions. They sound like good odds.