Context: during this I was watching a movie with my mother, so thats why I keep going up and down the stairs.
Okay, so last night I was trying to charge my phone. 2 months ago, I got water in the port and since then its been really slow. And also, non of my phone chargers really work. So I had it downstairs in my mother’s room.
My brother kept taking the phone off the charger, and putting his on. Which normally isnt a big deal, but it was late and I had to be up early in the morning. (For my school, and its important I keep my phone charged.) I was getting mildly annoyed, but not too badly.
But then, I come back downstairs later. And I see he did it AGAIN, and this time my phones not there. Mind you, its late, and Im exhausted. So I go upstairs again, because lowk I was getting really frustrated. I start complaining to my mom, and my brother comes up.
This part is a bit of a blur, as I was getting really overwhelmed. So my brother, mom, and the noise of the tv was going off at once. And I close my eyes, and just snap, "shut the fuck up." Not like loudly, but I likely had a bit of a growl to my voice.
My brother stops dead in his sentence and started snapping at me. Saying how I shouldn’t speak to him like that, how it was just a joke, and how I was being really dramatic. But like his tone fo voice felt really threatening. I try to apologize, explain I was overwhelmed by all the noises overlapping. (And also I was admittely really annoyed at him) But he cuts me off, to continuing to lecture me. It kinda scared me, just like the tone of his voice. My mother breaks it up, and I just say Im gonna leave and go to my room.
He follows me in the hallway and tells me to watch myself. Like multiple times. I ignore him, go to my room, and listen to him shit talk me to his friend for a sec. And later he comes in my room, says hes sorry. I apologize and finally get the chance to explain. And we say were good.
But idk. I feel like the response he gave to me was way too much, especially when I tried to apologize earlier, but he kept talking over me. And lowk I was genuinely scared for a sec. I was still annoyed, but I saw his eyes just fucking switch and his demeanor like puffed up.
But still, Im not sure. Because I was dramatic. So maybe I was also in the wrong. So reddit, am I the asshole?
ESH. Your brother shouldn’t have done that, but I don’t think he can be deemed THE asshole for his dramatic response to your initial dramatic outburst. He did overdo it, but at least was mature enough to come apologize when his feelings calmed down. It sounds like you were ready to keep escalating before you got scared. Everyone here needs to work on their emotional intelligence.
I wasnt gonna escalate it, but he snapped at me before I could apologize. But yeah, I can agree with your response
ESH
Honestly it’s one of those siblings things, you guys are fine.
You were scared for a sec? Scared of what?
My brother, he can get really aggressive when hes mad.
You’re siblings and kids.. it’s normal. NAH.
You can’t be mad at someone for firing back at you when you go off and swear at them.
I didnt go off, I literally closed my eyes and said “shut the fuck up.” Which I agree I shouldnt have done, but when I tried to explain/apologize he spoke over me and threatened to hurt me.
You literally said you growled at him when you said it. Like come on dude, you can’t be aggressive like that & then not expect someone to fire back at you. If you don’t swear and growl at him, he doesn’t respond. Cause and effect. Why is it ok for you to vent your frustration in a situation but when he’s frustrated (by your actions) he isn’t? You’re both wrong, you more so for also being a hypocrite
I did, and as I said, I was wrong for that. And I immediately went to apologize for it. But yeah, I agree we were both in the wrong. I personally just think his reaction was a lot worse then mine. Given the fact that HE started it via constantly taking the phone off the charger, and then hiding it (taking it) as a joke. If were talking about cause and effect here, he started it. I wouldnt have gotten frustrated he didnt take my phone or talk over my mother.
I did the one thing, and after, I did try to immediately apologize. Instead, compared to him. Who went off on me, and cut me off, and then threatened to hurt me.