So, I (17f) am currently on a school ski trip with my friends (all 16&17f). When we got our room assignment, beds were chosen pretty quickly until only three beds were left. (Mind you that we have five beds and six people in the room.) Two of the beds are a double bed and one is the lower bed of a bunk bed. I made it pretty clear that I did not want to sleep in the double bed. Not because I don’t want to sleep together or anything, but I get very vivid dreams/nightmares and have a tendency for sleepwalking when I sleep in an unknown bed and/or room. I do not want to disturb anyone while sleeping, so I want the single bed. However, one of my friends also really wants the single bed because she doesn’t feel comfortable sharing a bed. Even though we’ve all known eachother for four years and have had multiple sleepovers. Now, I do respect how she’s feeling, but I really don’t want to step on someone in my sleep or smack them in the face.
After a short discussion, we decided that I am going to sleep in the single bed and my friend has to sleep in the double bed with another friend of ours, despite her feeling very uncomfortable with it. Now, some of my other friends are giving me shit for not respecting how my friend feels. I want to make clear that I would, in fact, not be uncomfortable sharing a bed, but I think it would be more enjoyable for all of us if I slept in the single bed.
So AITA For not giving up my single bed to my friend who was uncomfortable sharing a bed when I believed it would benefit us all if I didn’t hit someone in the head while I’m sleeping?
This is my first time posting, so I don’t know how this all works, but I really hope you can help me with this.
EDIT: I made a translation mistake, I said there were six beds, but there only are five beds, only one of them is a double bed.
UPDATE: Thank you to everyone who helped me out here. I brought up that someone else could share a bed with me and my best friend (who had been previously sleeping alone) agreed to share. She apologised for being kinda mean, and I apologised to my friend for overstepping her boundaries.
Thank you so much for your help!
I’m a little confused – if there are six people and six beds, why does anyone have to share?
Because two of the beds are actually a double bed, that might’ve been a translating issue on my behalf as I’m not a native english speaker. Sorry
you have 6 beds, why would you have to share?
They mean 6 sleeping spots. (They’ve said below English isn’t their native language)
YTA if we take it as fact that there is only one person truly uncomfortable sharing a bed, and only enough beds for one person to sleep alone, and you are actually all friends, then the only conclusion possible to draw is that you aren’t particularly good friends and don’t care about her discomfort.
If there are six of you and six beds, why does anyone have to share?
Exactly. This confused me as well.
I think they meant 6 spaces in beds.
Why would your friend get priority in this situation? Draw straws.
That actually is a very good idea.
Why can’t your friend sleep in the upper bunk bed?
NAH / either your other friends or your school are the AHs.
Your other friends should consider giving up one of their single beds so you both are okay / don’t disturb someone else’s sleep.
The school are kinda weird/AHs for booking *one* double bed and the rest as bunks/singles. What a nightmare for teens, a lot of people are uncomfortable sharing a bed at that age.
If other people agree that your friend’s discomfort should be prioritized then they can decide between them which of them gets to sleep next to you. Like you said, you’re fine sleeping next to someone, but don’t want to accidentally hit someone. So one of them just needs to volunteer as tribute.
Just say, “Sure, I’ll take a double bed. Who wants to sleep next to me and get punched?”
NAH as long as you let them choose who gets beat up. Put the problem on them to solve. If they refuse to sleep next to you but insist that you sleep in a double, then they suck. If one of them is willing to be a punching bag and you still refuse, then you suck.
YTA, I get where you’re coming from, but you said that you were fine with sharing. I understand you not wanting to punch someone, but like others already suggested, you can share the bed with one of the other who doesn’t want to give up their sleeping spot. Your friend is clearly in discomfort, and I think that’s not something you should ignore.