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I am an Indiana alum living in Los Angeles. I am from Indianapolis. My wife is from LA, but went to Butler and that’s how we met. After a few years in Indiana, we moved to Los Angeles.
Last weekend was my wife’s birthday weekend. Her actual birthday was Saturday. She turned 32. We don’t have any kids, but we plan on changing that this year. Also on Friday was the Peach Bowl, Indiana versus Oregon. This has been a dream season for Indiana, literally thought I would never see what’s happened in my entire life. Due to her friends availability, she wanted to do dinner and drinks on Friday. I asked for Saturday, but was shot down. Offered to do something just us on Saturday but it turned into a relaxing day. I guess me watching Indiana football all season wasn’t enough for her to realize I wanted to keep watching Indiana football.
Because of the game, I told her that I would just meet up for the drinks afterwards, but would skip dinner and I made plans to hang out with my fellow Indiana Alum Friend to watch the game. She asked me to record the game and watch it later. I told her that was a crazy request and said absolutely not.
I did my plan where I watched the game with my friend then went out for drinks, but it was clear. My wife was pissed at me and her friends were pissed at me and it was a weird night on what should’ve been a very fun night.
The way you worded everything, especially the title shows that you’re here for allies.
I can correct it for you: AITA for ignoring my wife’s birthday party and going out for a football match instead.
YTA. it’s a football game ffs.
YTA. Her birthday is more important than a game. You could have recorded it and watched it later. You chose a game over your wife and you want to have kids. This may change her mind.
I would say YTA on this one. You could’ve watched the game late. It just shows that you value your football more than your wife.
I’m assuming you were “shot down” because her friends were only available Friday.
Look, man, she wants to feel important. But I also understand that you really wanted to watch the game live. I think you’re kind of an A for not being able to see her point of view at all, but overall I think NAH.
>I guess me watching Indiana football all season wasn’t enough for her to realize I wanted to keep watching Indiana football.
You say you’re planning on having kids this year with your wife, so there’s a good chance she’s looking at these kind of choices you’re making and catastrophizing about how you’re going to be as a dad. And I totally understand her concerns.
I will be missing my favorite football team’s playoff game tomorrow because my kid has a tournament. It’s called life. Have to choose whats important. YTA
Yes, wife is going to be pissed for a while. Don’t plan on my trying to make those babies anytime soon. If you was my partner you’d be sleeping on the couch & satisfying yourself for a long time.
Really disingenuous title here which shows you’re trying to skew the narrative. This isn’t about you refusing to record a football game, this is about you putting the game above your wife. This was important to her and you ignored that, didn’t give a shit and did what you want anyway and by the sounds of it ruined the night for everyone.
Also if you two are having this kind of arguement about a birthday party please don’t have kids like you suggested you’re going to, they don’t deserve to be caught in this kind of petty mess
Ok I’m a woman – and some things need to be watched live – but I’m a sports fan. I would have understood and adjusted my plans or just had fun without him there and done something nice separately on Saturday. It’s not like this is going to be a frequent occurrence- bowl games are once a year. Now if you said you had to watch EVERY game live – then we might have an issue. I routinely tape US Open tennis matches- but for the final, my butt is on the couch watching.
NTA, I doubt this sub understands what Indiana being in the playoff means. If this was like a regular season basketball game or like a nonconference game vs a scrub team, you might be the asshole. This is the semi final for the national title though. Very unreasonable for you to record it if you are a big fan.
Seriously. I’m going crazy reading these replies. This place is the last place to post this. Lot of sportsball energy.
I gather it’s the unpopular opinion, but I have to say NTA:
* Friday wasn’t her *actual* birthday. You did want to do something on her actual birthday (Saturday);
* It’s not an ordinary football game; it’s a playoff Bowl game in a dream season;
* 32 isn’t a “big” birthday; and
* You met up with them after the game was over.
The only thing you were an asshole about was the misleading way you worded the topic heading.
You’re not ready for kids man.
OK, I I couldn’t care less about college football, but I am totally in the NTA zone here. A ball game for a team that is rarely in ball. Games is a big deal. Wife could’ve easily gone out with a friend on Friday night had dinner and drinks and have a separate party dinner whatever with OP on Saturday her actual birthday. Your birthday comes around every year bowl games for a crappy team don’t.
I know I’m not a guy. I’m an elderly woman to be honest. But I still see how if you really care about a team and they make it to a playoff. It’s a big deal.