She swears that she either doesn’t want food or wants something else that she ends up not liking and takes mine. Or “just one bite”. Don’t get me wrong, I love her 💀 But one time on a trip with our friends, I made instant ramen for breakfast and I asked if she wanted me to make her one. Of course she said no. Minutes later I go sit down and try to enjoy my meal and *at the corner of my e*ye I see her walking towards me. Jaws theme music starts playing. I start rushing to eat my noodles and it’s bitch hot. I’m hating every moment I’m scarfing it down but for some reason I’d rather that than have to share my food. Asshole or big back activity, I get it. It just irks me every time 💀💀💀 Who else feels the same because I don’t want to be a dick alone 😂
NTA. She’s a big girl, she can get her own food.
Joey? Is that you? NTA
Please have an adult conversation about this instead of scarfing down near boiling soup.
NTA for wanting to eat your food.
NTA but for goodness sakes use your words instead of burning your mouth. “No these are mine.”. “You can make your own.”. “You declined your own when I offered. There’s not enough to share so you’ll need to eat/make/get your own.”. “No I want what I ordered. If you don’t like yours you’ll have to order something else.”.
Ideally you’d point out this pattern to her and tell her she needs to stop. You’re not sharing because she doesn’t like her choice or changed her mind. (Remember to do when it’s not mealtime so no one’s hangry when you discuss this).
NTA, she can use words to say she might want some so you could make enough for both, not having to share a one person sized meal. It’s a nice moment once in a while, but if she’s a repeat offender then no mercy from me. If the roles were reversed everyone would call you and A H for sure for not getting your own meal.
She’s a woman, not a child that can’t think she might want what OP is having, every single time. I am a woman too, I always tell my husband what I want to eat, it’s that easy.
JOEY DOESN’T SHARE FOOD
NTA. She’s doing it on purpose. Fuck that
NTA ,,,,,You literally asked if she wanted her own ramen and she said no. The image of you stress eating scalding noodles while mentally hearing the Jaws theme has me dying though
NTA. There’s two reasons people do this.
First one is feeling self-conscious about the amount they are eating so they just want “some” of the other person’s food. So they can convince themselves they didn’t eat much.
The second is a control thing. They want to make you share because they see it as a sign of affection or, in some cases, a method of exerting control.
There’s no real excuse if you’re purposely asking in advance too.
NTA. Joey doesn’t like to share food. This is me.
NTA – but here’s an idea, if/when she asks or tries to take your food just say “No” or have an actual conversation with her about her behaviour. Just because your girlfriend wants your food, doesn’t mean you NEED to give it to her. Presumably, you’re both adults – either learn to communicate & set some boundaries in your relationship OR deal with the fact that you’ll be sharing your food with your girlfriend.
Just tell her no. She’s a grown adult and needs to take responsibility for herself.
If this were only an occasional thing, I’d tell you to grin and bear it.
She’s apparently doing it on a regular basis, and I agree with you – that’s nine kinds of annoying.
NTA – stop giving in to her on this stuff and set expectations in advance:
* The next time you offer to make her something and she says she doesn’t want it, you should say “OK, then, I don’t want to waste food, so I’m only making enough for me; you’ll need to make your own if you change your mind.”
* The next time she wants to try something new at a restaurant, say, “OK, well, I’m not interested in that, so don’t ask me to swap if you don’t like it.”
Do this *and stick to it.*
NTA.
I am a woman and I hate it when people assume I will share my food. Apparently this is lifelong as my mother told me that my first ever tantrum was a response to her taking a spoonful of my ice cream when I was around two years old.
I also dislike people not stating clearly what they want and/or making it my problem when they make a mistake.
So 100% with you on all counts. You don’t have to give her your food, and you could explain this preference to her at a moment when you’re not eating. But if she is a woman who needs to believe that she is too dainty to ever be hungry, or one who sees not sharing your food as an indication that you don’t love her, you might have an actual problem here.