I (30F) am a stay-at-home-mom of 2 young children (2.5 years & 5 months). My husband (29M) and I recently moved to a more affordable state to have a family and both agreed that me being a SAHM was what we both wanted. We drove both of our vehicles to our new home.
Recently his truck had to be fixed costing him a pretty penny. He had it fixed. Due to how expensive it is to fix his truck when it breaks down and the amount of gas it eats up, we agreed that he should commute to work with my vehicle as it’s far more cost effective.
For whatever reason I eventually, (and somewhat jokingly) asked if he’d fix/replace my car if anything were to go wrong with it since he’d be driving it all the time now. He said, and I quote, “Why would it be my responsibility? It’s your car. I didn’t hear you offering to help pay to fix my truck.”
AITA for insisting on what I believe equates to security based on the comment he made?
NTA, but your DH is a huge one. He wants to use your car regularly, but he doesn’t want to be responsible for repairing it? Eff him. Tell him to take his own damned truck.
I think you guys need to talk about what a SAHM means and how the finances in your marriage will work going forward. NTA
Makes more sense to just not let him use your car anymore.
NTA. How does he expect you to be a SAHM and then say something that stupid? That’s a man who will leave you high and dry one day and be like “well, it’s not my problem she’s broke.”
Ill.never understand why women insist on marrying men that hate them, then give up their independence and become financially-dependent on those losers.
I get what your saying, I didn’t realize that when he said he wanted me to stay home with the kids, that he didn’t know what that meant in terms of finances.
You need to have a serious talk about what it means. For you to be a SAHM you are giving up years if not decades of work experience and earning income that you might never overcome again. Your re-entry into the workforce will be extremely difficult. There is a market rate for childcare that he needs to be aware of. It’s not free labor.
Take your car back and get a job.
And make him pay for child care. And do half of all household chores.
NTA .he’s a jerk . Tell him he made a valid point and take your car back.
Also… Start looking into alternate sources of income for your own financial security.
Nta. Being a stay at home mom is extremely dangerous for women
What?? You are a stay at home mom. Where does he think you will get money from?
NTA, AND since he has no need for this gas guzzling truck, you should get rid of it and replace with something more practical. Maybe even replace the husband who has some kind of inadequacy. And yes, since you are now a SAHM, ALL financial responsibility is his.
Replace the truck and the husband.