So for context, I’m 24 and I can’t drive because I only have my learners permit. Now I bowl every Sunday for a league. Normally a bowling friend gives me a ride except she isn’t able to for 5 weeks (3 as of writing this) due to surgery. So I have asked my parents if they would give me a ride for this week and last week. Both times they have gotten upset because I’m not paying them gas money and they see it as a “waste of time and gas”. Now mind you, normally I’d agree. However every week of bowling I miss, I still have to pay for. Now I know some of yall would be saying “just pay them the money.” However that’s the issue. Bowling is $22 even. Not only that but I work Monday – Friday. So I’d have to buy myself meals also for every single day including breakfast. On top of that I owe 1k in medical bills.
So my question is, would I be the asshole for making them pay the next 3 weeks if they decide not to drive me to bowling?
Edit: I forgot to mention the bowling alleyway is 45mins away by car. No buses go out that way and same with taxis. Uber is $60 and my parents want half of that($30) per ride. Plus they give my brother and his GF (both are able to work) free rides. They have harped on me for not having a ride or job but not him.
How exactly are you going to “make” them pay?
Even if you were able to; at what point did YOUR bowling league become THEIR financial responsibility?
Sucks that your parents aren’t able/willing to help you out, but I don’t see how they owe you money because you can’t get a ride.
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YTA – you sound really entitled to your parents’ money and time. (And your bowling friend – have you ever compensated them for all the free rides)
YTA. You’re an adult. Figure out how to get there yourself.
Let me guess, you also live in their house rent-free?
YTA. You’re 24. Uber or throw them some gas money to take them to bowling. It’s not their problem if you miss it.
Grow up dude.
YTA. If you want to go bowling figure out how to get there yourself.
Yes YTA. You are an adult who has decided to pick up a hobby that costs money. Get your license and drive yourself or pay for an uber or pitch in for gas. You are 24 for goodness sake.
YWBTA – You’re an adult, you need to make other arrangements to get you to places you need/want to be.
Your parents aren’t obligated to take you when your original plans fall through. It’s incredibly entitled of you to think that it’s their responsibility.
As an adult, It is up to you and you alone to get from A to B and to make other arrangements as needed and not expect people to bail you out all the time.
YTA. If you’re struggling that much you can’t slide your parents a few bucks for gas on top of medical debt, meals, etc, maybe $22 a week to go bowling shouldn’t be your priority
You’re 24. You go towork but you can’t get yourself to the damn bowling alley? If you can’t get yourself there you can save money & not go!
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Welcome to being an adult. Sometimes you pay for things and can’t go. Or you just have to pay for an uber/taxi. Or Sometimes you need to leave an hour earlier so you can ride the bus. Sometimes you just have to walk. Or stay at a friend’s house on Saturday night.
Work it out and stop throwing a tantrum. If you can’t afford to get yourself to bowling, you can’t afford bowling.
Yes, YWBTA. You signed up for a league knowing that you would need transportation. Your transportation fell through and as a 24 year old adult, you expect your parents to provide said transportation. You work Monday-Friday, how do you get to work? Having to pay for your own life expenses is sadly a part of adult life. If you’re not willing to part with the money, then you don’t get to enjoy the things that require money.
YTA. The cost of your bowling, your food, and your debt are not your parents’ problem. You are 24, they are not obligated to pay for any aspect of your life at this point. Which includes the cost of gas and time to chauffeur your entitled ass around. The fact they are even willing to drive you places *with* gas money is a kind favor on their part.
YTA
This is a you problem, you are old enough to figure this out on your own. Tie your shoes and walk, or pay for your parents inconvenience of driving you. You are 8 years past most people’s driving permit.
Would you be the A? Are you serious? If I was your parents I’d be putting your bowling ball up your alley for you.