My sister (F19) is in college and has constantly had to change dorms because of "evil roommates" even though we’ve, over multiple occasions, had to tell her that she is the problem and she doesn’t believe us. Any time she does anything wrong, she plays the victim card.
I (M13) walked into my room to find two large books on my bed. One about chemistry and the other about human history. I yell over to her (her door was closed and this was not in an obnoxious manner) asking about why there were books on my bed. She said "oh well you’ll need them next year just put them somewhere in your room. I said "I don’t want them." She continued with the same argument that I’ll need them next year. A little while later (2 or 3 hours), I knock on her door and place them down on some bins as she’s yelling at me (disrespectfully) that I’ll need them next year. I say it a non yelling voice that I don’t want them.
A little while later, my mom messaged me that she wants me to give her anything that I don’t want to her to stop fuss. (Directly, If a sibling gives you something you don’t want, please just give it to me. It is not worth the fighting and it certainly isn’t worth throwing things into other people’s rooms.") I then respond that I didn’t want the books and her refusing to take them back is rude. (Directly, Okay but just to let you know, I didn’t throw it into Finleigh’s room. I knocked, came in, set them down, and said "I don’t want them" as I was leaving getting yelled at.) (Directly second message, I understand how giving something back to someone could be seen as disrespectful, but I frankly don’t care. With the amount of things I have to put up with in this house, I think I deserve respectfully declining something after I had tried giving it back twice earlier.)
I think that I might be the asshole because I’m not sure if I’m being disrespectful.
EDIT: I feel like it’s pretty important to say that these weren’t so much a gift. They were just… on my bed? She was pretty insistent that I keep them, even after many remarks of me saying I don’t want them.
I/N/F/O: …*Will* you need them next year? Are those classes you’ll even be taking?
EDIT: YTA – She’s giving you something you admit you can legitimately use and will need. It’s ungrateful of you to behave this way. You’re not obligated to use them, but you’re being very shortsighted and seem to be willfully blinding yourself because you dislike your sister. Textbooks are expensive, and you’re very fortunate that you have someone willing to gift you some needed ones.
I asked myself this very question. Why is she insisting that OP will need them next year, yet OP makes no mention if they do need them or not.
A gift once given becomes the property of the recipient to do with as they will. You owe only a thank you. NTA.
You may want to read OP’s comments. They will need them for the classes next year.
just throw them in the trash. she gave them to you, you can do with them what you want.
You may want to read OP’s comments. They will need them for the classes next year.
But…. You’ll need them next year
nta on altercation. books are treasures, but i’m old school
be well
YTA
As you said, you need to read these books for school. It’s not really an option to not read the necessary material because you don’t like reading.
She should have given them to you rather than leaving them on the bed but if your normal communication is yelling from one another room maybe it’s hard to communicate with you.
I’m gonna go with NAH. But you are being short-sighted. Based on your comments, you will need them for classes next year. No one is telling you to read these in your free time; you’ll read them when you take the classes and use them for your work. You are quite young, so I can understand your reaction to your sister’s “gift”. She should’ve had a conversation with you rather than just placing them in your room.
YTA
In your comments you say you will need them next year (and no you don’t get to skip required reading because you don’t want to). Why not just give them to your mom to hang onto until you need them? YTA and your mom is right. There’s no need to create unnecessary drama like this.
Again. I wish I could filter posts on this sub by the age of the ‘contributor.’ I’m so sick of this juvenile shit on my feed.