I (F) recently noticed that my boyfriend changed his Instagram profile picture to a really nice solo shot of himself. I liked the photo and was curious where it was taken, so later when he was showing me something in his camera roll, I swiped up on the image to see the metadata/location.
That’s when I saw the "Edited with Gemini" (AI) tag and the original version of the photo.
The Context: The original photo was taken on **my birthday**. We were sitting together at a restaurant; there was a birthday cake in front of us and some drinks on the table.
When I asked him about the edit, he originally told me he just used AI to "remove the clutter on the table and some people in the background" to make it look cleaner. However, when I looked at the original, **there was no one in the background.** It was just me sitting right next to him.
He says I’m overreacting and this shouldn’t be a big deal. He told me he edited me out simply because he thought he "looked really good" in that specific picture and wanted to use it for his profile. He doesn’t see why it’s a big deal since it’s "just a good picture of himself".
I feel hurt because it feels weird to be literally erased from a memory of my own birthday just for the sake of an Instagram aesthetic.
AITA for being upset about this?
It’s also his tinder photo.
Came to the exact same conclusion
NTA
If it’s a good photo of him without you in it, it’s a good photo with you in it. He clearly wants to put a nice face forward on IG, solo. If it was only about having a solo photo for his personal IG, that’d be fine but there are, I’m sure, plenty of other photos with only him that he could’ve used. By explicitly erasing you from the photo, he’s said all he needed to without saying anything.
NTA- AI is trash anyway, but that’s an especially weird thing to do.
Are there photos of both of you on his social media?
How old are y’all?
Isn’t there a copy of the original photo?
Since you were sitting next to him how would you feel if he just cropped the photo instead of using AI?
IMO NTA, I think the photo thing doesn’t really make him the asshole or is at least it’s only borderline, but what is clearly AH is him lying to you about it.
NTA.
He did an extra effort to be solo on IG. That’s a red flag.
Yeah real facts. That guy is scared that he will not get any texts from girls
I suppose it depends how much OP is featured on the rest of the profile, but the fact that he erased OP and then lied to her about what he edited out of the picture is saying red flag to me. If he isn’t visibly in a relationship with OP on his social media (and on posts, not just stories that disappear), I would put pretty good money on him wanting to appear single on Insta in case somebody better comes along.
Don’t date clankers.
NTA. Not really understanding the y t a remarks. If it was a picture of just himself originally, I don’t think this would be a problem at all. I think it’s very odd to take a picture of you and your significant other and completely erase them from it. Kind of sus.
NTA i find it odd he insists on that particular picture be used for a solo pic of him. does he not have any other pics with just him in it? also why did he have to edit you out, what’s the problem with you being in the picture…? i just don’t get it
i undestand too on the other end its his personal account ? hes entitled to a solo profile picture? i wish he couldve just cropped me out .. its just the EXTRA ADDL STEPS to remove me was weird as fuck
Post the photo of you two together as your profile picture, then everyone would know what he did 😂