I (M) recently ended a long-distance relationship with my now ex, It has been a very messy and emotional breakup. I am currently in therapy working on my communication skills and trying to take responsibility for my past mistakes in the relationship.
I won’t try to paint myself as the hero, i lied and i was manipulative at times during our relationship, what broke her trust the most it’s that she started feeling jealous towards a female friend of mine and she was asking me things about her and i never gave her an answer that could keep her safe or secure that i wasn’t cheating, then she confronted me one day and told me what’s going between that friend and me, she started insulting me and screaming and i got scared.
I told my friend if we can a make a fake conversation pretending that i stopped talking to her to respect my girlfriend and she said yes, we did it and we make the whole scene about it and that backfired horribly when my friend told her it was a setup
My ex got super mad at me and all the guilt was eating me alive, so i gave her and apology without expecting anything in return, she forgive me but i had to block her for a week, i did it, she said she wanted more time but i refused and unblock her after a week.
More things happened and the relationship was breaking, she felt insecure that my friend and that was creating more problems in our relationship and at some point, i was exhausted of never being enough and not be the man she wanted.
She broke up with me 10 days ago, she confronted me after that to know what was going on with my friend and she found out that i was talking to her after i told her that we didn’t talk anymore and all of that was businesses stuff, I vented to my friend about it and showed some ss of our private chat about our breakup
Starting from that point she got very upset that i sent my friend some ss of our private convo, then she started insulting me, saying that i was sexting with my friend and that i want her and a lot of things, then she threatened me to post our privates convos in her dc server and to make fun of me with her friends, i got scared (she never said that she was going to post my nudes) so i removed her from my gaming gc, i talked with her otp and apologized for all the damage and it was all good after that
They took my back because i told them some things that she did during our relationship that were not okay
So now, my ex is asking me to add her back on the group chat because she wants her friends back and she said that i was exaggerating when the threat happened and she told me that they don’t have to be involved in our drama, my friends don’t want her back because of what she did to me
I don’t want to isolate her and she doesn’t deserve this after all i did to her, my friends and my therapist said that she is manipulating me but idk? is she really is? I feel so guilty and i don’t want to block her because that would feel like swiping things under the rug, AITA?
I think it’s funny when someone tries to bias the story in their favor but leave enough of the shit they did to make it clear what happened.
Your friend who lied about going along with your idea and then straight up told your ex it was a setup is hilarious and it also not your friend lol.
ESH. Y’all folks seem to enjoy drama.
ESH. You both suck, dude you don’t really even sound genuinely remorseful about any of this shit, everything bad you’ve admitted feels like it’s being framed as not so bad but you can’t even handle the thought of it happening to you.
I apologize if it’s being framed that way but i genuinely feel remorseful for what i did, the setup and all about it, i tried to leave things as rational as possible telling all what happened, the main thing is that i did a setup with the friend she felt insecure about and that was what fucked up everything
ESH. You need to practice lying if you’re going to do it so much. Nobody is assuming you’re in the right here just because you leave out all the key info.