I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 and a half years. Recently I’ve noticed she’s put on quite a lot of weight. When we got together she wasn’t skinny but she was healthy whereas now she’s a lot heavier and a lot less active.
I’ve started to get worried about her health. She used to go to the gym three-four times a week and we used to go on walks on weekends whereas now she’ll barely go walking and I’ve noticed she does get out of breath a lot quicker, even stopping on the way to go from the apartment to her car.
I’m very been wanting to get in better shape myself, I’m not in bad shape but I could do with going to the gym a bit more. I asked my gf if we could talk. I mentioned that I’m worried about her and her weight.
I made sure to mention I was coming from a place of being worried about her health but she accused me of fat shaming her. I just said she’s gained quite a lot of weight in a year and is a lot less active and I’m worried about her heath as I’ve seen it decline over the year
She just repeated again I shouldn’t be commenting on her weight and I shouldn’t be fat shaming her. I pointed out I’m not fat shaming her, I’m just voicing my concerns about her. She said I should drop it and should be making her feel bad about her weight.
AITA for voicing concerns about my partners weight?