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# From the comments: I really want to delete this and all but I’m not going to I’m gonna keep honest, I appreciate everyone being honest ITA looking back on this but damn bro I haven’t had a moment where my adrenaline spiked seeing so many people against me like this in years man like genuinely I can feel my veins rn idek how to describe it my body just feels ice cold bro but god damn I’m happy I posted this because I was thinking I was in the right so thanks everybody
I was just talking to one of my friends and he mentioned that he had ADHD & Anxiety, and I asked him if he was diagnosed and an argument ensued on Discord. Here’s the full chatlog with his name censored. I spent about an hour trying to paste in the chatlog but it was detected as AI for some reason, and I already spent about 10-20 minutes making photos & censoring his name in a chatlog I just backspaced all of and I just kinda wanna get this over with now so sorry if I’m not supposed to do this but here are some photos because I see nothing that says that this isn’t allowed in the rules 🙏🙏🙏
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YTA. You got too aggressive with this and ended up arguing with him instead of making a valid point. Yes, diagnosis matters. You could and should have made that point in an entirely different way. It is not your place to question him like this. And it is not your place to invalidate his experience.
“From what I see…” No, you are also not an experienced mental health professional. You went against your own point here. And for what? To prove a point?
You should apologize.
YTA. You were aggressive right from the off and dismissed everything he had to say. I think he may now be an ex-friend.
Just gonna reply this to every comment rq but yes looking back ITA, I’ve already apologized to my friend and I just want to give everyone an update on this.
Just for context I’m 13 and I am diagnosed with aspergers if that makes it a little better but still unexcusable from me, and as embarrassing as it is, I don’t want to hide or delete this because I’d rather be honest and let everybody see what I did.
But I will say it scared the hell out of me idk how to describe it just when I saw so many messages starting with “YTA” literally my body just went ice cold and my adrenaline spiked and I haven’t had an eye-opening experience like that in years.
Very glad I posted it here though because I would’ve gone on with my life thinking that I was in the right in that private conversation.
Also thanks everybody for being honest
Good for you for being able to hear negative feedback and take it on board. People certainly would’ve been less harsh if the main post included your age.
Glad you apologized and hopefully your friend forgave you. It’s good practice in the future to listen when someone is telling you their experience, rather than trying to judge it through your own POV, because 2 people don’t experience something the exact same way.
I think it’s admirable you want to leave the post up but the internet can be cruel, please don’t feel guilty about deleting/logging out if you get nasty messages.
Absolutely YTA wtf
YTA. Everyone is going to have a difference of opinion on self diagnosing so I’ll skip that part. ADHD, anxiety, autism, along so many other disorders are spectrums. It’s not one size fits all. People with adhd don’t have to be hyperactive all over the place at all times. People with anxiety don’t have to worry about things constantly. Just because you see him as a happy person who doesn’t worry doesn’t mean anything. I have adhd but you wouldn’t know because I’m typically happy and calm. I also have anxiety but I don’t worry about everything at all times.
You could’ve gone about the conversation in a completely different way but you chose this direction instead.
I have CPTSD – not self-diagnosed – and part of the problem is masking hard as hell that everything is okay, because showing distress makes the anxiety worse. I don’t want to be a problem, and being less than cheerful and happy is a problem.
You’re correct, OP can’t possibly know everything going through the friend’s head.
And sometimes, you can realize that something is terribly wrong with your brain without a professional needing to tell you, but getting confirmation is always a good first step.
I *knew* I had a panic attack disorder for years, on account of *all the panic attacks* but it wasn’t until I worked with a therapist that I realized there’s a difference between having a panic attack, and having a panic attack *disorder*
Uh, yeah YTA. How aggressive and unnecessarily rude. It’s not your place to tell someone what you think they don’t or do have. Get over yourself first and foremost
You just dismissed him in a vulnerable situation.
You’re an autist yourself, which might explain something, but you should most definitely apologize to him.
I agree that he should have a professional evaluation to be certain. But he’s also an autist and perhaps just having a idea of being an autist gives him some sort of understanding why he is as he is. Many people being diagnosed late has a feeling of relief.
And just because you don’t see the signs doesn’t mean they are there. Some people are excellent at masking to fit in – and one of the cardinal symptoms of autism is a difficulty reading and understanding social interaction and cues, so that you haven’t noticed are not especially surprising.
YTA. Not sure if you’re aware but ADHD testing is insanely expensive. I have health insurance and still paid over $2000 for it. And that doesn’t even get you any treatment. I still had to pay hundreds to meet with a psychiatrist afterward so I could start medication. And now I pay $100/month for appointments with him to keep being prescribed medication. Plus another $100/month for the medication itself of course.
YTA for basically saying he doesn’t have anxiety because he seems happy to you. Are you inside his head? You’re just as much a professional as he is, so why do your think your opinion on his mental state is more valid than his own? Maybe he has ADHD and anxiety. Maybe he doesn’t. But that’s not up to you to question.
You’re not a licensed professional, so who are you to diagnose that he doesn’t have anxiety?
Anyway, YTA . Can’t imagine him opening up to you in the future.
I really want to delete this and all but I’m not going to I’m gonna keep honest, I appreciate everyone being honest ITA looking back on this but damn bro I haven’t had a moment where my adrenaline spiked seeing so many people against me like this in years man like genuinely I can feel my veins rn idek how to describe it my body just feels ice cold bro but god damn I’m happy I posted this because I was thinking I was in the right so thanks everybody