I am a stay at home mom to a 1 year old child. I often end up having protein coffee and a protein bar for breakfast because I need something fast before my Velcro baby becomes little miss clingy.
Occasionally when my husband has a remote day he will make us breakfast. But multiple times when he’s make me eggs the eggs aren’t fully cooked. I don’t have an issue with a sunny side up egg with a running yolk but I’m talking omelet or scrambled eggs not fully cooked. I can’t stomach it. I told him last time he made breakfast because I don’t like wasting food but I can’t manage to eat it.
He did it again this morning and I’m staring down at a runny omelet. Would I be the asshole to tell my husband that though I appreciate him trying to make sure I get food in my stomach, if he doesn’t cook my eggs properly I’d just rather he not at all?
There’s an easy solution to this problem…the microwave!!
This is what I was thinking. Definitely have a conversation, but if eggs are a bit underdone they can be cooked more thoroughly in the microwave also and wont be runny anymore
You wouldn’t be the asshole, but that messaging will not have the desired effect.
Remind him that you prefer the eggs more done, and leave it at that. Maybe show him what you mean. Don’t say “rather not at all”, because it sets up conflict.
Also, that you appreciate him cooking for you, not “trying to make sure I get food in my stomach” sounds weirdly impersonal. He cares about you, not your stomach (presumably).
You would not be TA for asking him to cook the eggs to your preference; you WOULD be TA if you asked him to cook the eggs “properly”.
Respectfully, it’s so confusing to me when people in relationships can’t just talk to each other. This isn’t an argument. This is just personal preference and that’s fine! I hate the way my husband makes pancakes. He hates the way I make eggs. So, if we’re doing it for the other, we make it the way they like. That’s just normal communication and being flexible, not something where anyone is being an AH. Thank him for his efforts and let him know how you like your eggs cooked, even more firmly than you have in the past
How does a person have a baby with someone but not be sure if they can say “hey can you actually cook this food how I like it”
Is there a reason you can’t just ask him to cook your eggs a little more?
OMG, just ask nicely to have him cook the eggs more “because you like your eggs more solid”! It doesn’t have to be a confrontation, just a simple request for the style of eggs he’s making for you.
NTA unless you ask in a confrontational or nasty tone, otherwise, yes YTA
My wife asked that I cook her omlettes a bit less than I was making, and I did. I like my omlettes a tiny bit crispy, she doesn’t. It wasn’t a fight, it was a simple request and definition of her peference that I didn’t know.
Eggs are one of those things that should be cooked to preference, and it isn’t difficult to cook scrambled eggs for an additional 30 seconds. This applies to you as well. It’s totally silly, but you can just toss them back in the pan.
NTA.
Just pop it in the microwave for 30 seconds. Problem solved. Marriage saved.
Or honestly…” Hey love, I appreciate you so much for making me an omelette, I prefer mine a little more done”.
INFO why are you throwing it away instead of putting it back on the stove for another minute?
Or even the microwave? I think NTA and the husband should listen, but also the answer doesn’t have to be food waste.
“sweetie, can you nuke these for like 30 seconds, they’re a little too runny for my taste, thanks love!”