I (32 M) stayed over at my girlfriends (26) place. Around 5:30 a.m., I woke up cold and couldn’t fall back asleep. She moves a lot in her sleep and pulls the covers, and I didn’t want to wake her by turning on lights, adjusting blankets, or bringing a space heater into the bedroom.
I put on sweats and a hoodie and went to sit quietly in the living room near a heater.
When she woke up later and realized I wasn’t in bed, she got upset and said it meant I wasn’t comfortable in her home or with her. I explained that I was just cold and trying to be considerate, but she kept insisting I should’ve handled it differently.
This turned into an argument, and I eventually left because I felt like my intentions weren’t being heard.
AITA for getting up and going to the living room instead of staying in bed or waking her?
I think your not the asshole because you were merely trying to find a comfortable spot while also trying not to wake up your girlfriend, or ex girlfriend i dunno. I think that was the best move, and it was very respectable to do that. NTA
You’re NTA, you were thinking of her when doing it, explained why, it’s not your fault comprehension doesn’t come naturally to her 🤦🏻♀️
NTA. Your girlfriend is highly immature and needs to grow the hell up.
NTA. You didn’t want to disturb her that early and you took what I consider reasonable steps.
The part of your post mentioning where she says you aren’t comfortable in her home or with her, can I ask, is this an issue that has come up before? It hardly seems like this situation would be the first time for such a comment to be mentioned. Then again, maybe it could be or she has other issues weighing on her that she hasn’t brought up yet.
NTA dude, why do you even need to ask? You were cold, so you went and got warm. It’s not like you left her place without waking her.
NTA but it sounds like you need separate blankets, she can roll herself up into her’s, and you still get to be warm under your’s.
NTA…You were being considerate of your gf and she got mad for no reason. She sounds like she needs to grow up and have some maturity
NTA. Consider this argument an early warning indicator. You can either attempt adult conversation with her concerning this event, or see it as a red flag and an opportunity to re-evaluate the relationship.
Honestly, your girlfriend is the one who’s kind of being an asshole. She’s literally saying that you should’ve just stayed cold so she didn’t wake up alone basically or she would’ve probably been mad at you for waking her up in the middle of the night. All that wasn’t necessary for this conversation was her to be like oh I’m so sorry that you were cold. I know I move around a lot next time just wake me up because I’d prefer you wake me up then wake up to you not being there because I like your presence. I don’t see the point in villainizing your partner because they were trying to consider you and not wake you up from sleeping in the middle of the night. NTA.
NTA. This is why the wife and I have separate blankets. I toss and turn like a rotisserie chicken some nights and would likely steal the blanket. She also is colder at night than I am so I have a sheet vs her comforter.
Nta … how old are you two ?? This shouldn’t be an argument between two mature adults
Such a weird hill for her to die on. I would have been very embarrassed and apologetic about stealing the covers. Anyway….going forward, if you sleep over again, pull the covers back when she takes them…..or have her give you a your own blanket so you aren’t sharing one with her. But basically don’t worry about waking her up. You tried being considerate and she did not want that. You are NTA and she is acting very strangely. Like….what is the big deal about you going to the living room?
NTA. That was rather quite considerate of you. Another adult would appreciate the gesture.
Do you have a decent pair of running shoes?