ok so I (16M) have been having trouble with my friend lately, long story short he accused me of being rude to him which I didn’t do, but I won’t bitch about him on here. After school, me, My boyfriend (16M) and my friend walk home together, My boyfriend is a mutual so that’s how me and my friend became friends. my friend started talking (and arguing) to me about how I was being rude to him in the lesson, my boyfriend wasn’t looking to get involved so he crossed the road. I motioned that I wanted to leave the argument by following my boyfriend and turning away from my friend, signalling I didn’t want to speak. It continued like this for a while until I asked my friend to just ‘suck it up’ and not talk about it anymore. After this he then ignored me, ran over to my boyfriend and basically started tattle-tailing to him, and my boyfriend basically brushed him off saying ‘I don’t care.’ AITA for asking him to suck it up? I just wanted to talk to my boyfriend (Which I didn’t get to do the **whole journey home**)
Just let this go. This is teenage drama, and it really doesn’t matter.
Don’t know if you were rude to him or not so can’t answer. In theory when you ask someone to stop they should but you are both teenagers not adults who may have not grasped that yet.
yeah, without knowing how you were potentially rude, i can’t tell you whether or not you were rude… INFO is needed here… otheriwse this is just teen drama
YTA
You didn’t ask him, you ignored him as a signal then told him off. I think that’s rude, better to use words.
For future reference…telling someone to ‘suck it up’ is not a good way to effectively communicate or resolve any type of conflict. It’s basically shutting down the conversation by invalidating the other person, like ‘your feelings don’t matter so shut up’.
I wonder how you would feel if you started talking to your boyfriend about how uncomfortable the situation was, and he responded with a simple ‘Suck it up’…
Honestly, can’t really make a judgement here when the think ur friend is saying about u is true or not. This just sounds like typical teen drama
Yes, YTA. What’s wrong with saying, “I am not having this conversation anymore, I have said what I need to say.” You don’t “signal” things, you use your words *before* you blow up on someone.
YTA.
It sounds like you were likely dismissive and rude to him in class (sounds like he was complaining about something that happened in class).
Regardless of if you felt you were rude or not, he feels that way and was trying to communicate. Instead of hearing him out and using your WORDS, you ignored him and basically told him to STFU and get over it.
Ew, girl.
>but I won’t bitch about him here
That’s the point of this post…..
YTA.
YTA you don’t get to be rude and then walk away when confronted
YTA
You were rude on the way home. I don’t believe your claim that you weren’t rude earlier in the day