I’m in school and I’m in a class where attendance actually matters because the teacher explains things that aren’t in the textbook. I’m pretty organized, I take detailed notes, and I review them after class.
There’s this kid who skips a LOT. Like at least once or twice a week. After every class he misses, he texts me asking for pictures of my notes. At first I don’t mind because I get that people have stuff going on. But it keeps happening. He never asks anyone else, never offers anything in return, and never thanks me beyond a quick “got it.”
Last week I’m swamped with homework and sports, and he texts me again asking for notes. I tell him I can’t this time and that he should probably start coming to class or asking the teacher for help. He gets annoyed and says I’m being selfish and that it doesn’t cost me anything to send pictures.
Now a couple of people say I’m being dramatic and should just help him out, but I feel like I’m being used and enabling him to skip class.
Tell those people to send their notes
Exactly
NTA!!! do not give him your notes. it is up to him and him alone to inusre he passes or fails
nta. he’s going to be a nightmare colleague when he gets a job.
Tell him to kick rocks, it’s not your responsibility to take notes it’s HIS. Maybe he’ll start attending class.
NTA. You’re not his personal note service. Helping once in a while is fine, but this is a pattern and he’s choosing not to show up. Setting a boundary isn’t selfish.
You’re better than me I’d waste my time making fake notes to ruin his day 🤣
NTA. If he comes back about it or anyone else says anything, tell them it was fine to do it once in a while, but you can’t do it anymore, as you need your own notes. Suggest he ask another classmate who might not need their notes. If a classmate has an issue with it, tell them to give him their notes. This guy is 100% using you, so continue not letting him.
NTA, giving him your notes is enabling his bad behavior. Dramatic would be making copies on a xerox machine, Then boldly proclaiming in front of the class, “This is the Last time show up or ask someone else “… Before class of course.. but honestly if anyone says anything to you tell them to send him their notes
He found his easy mark. He figured out how to work you and he is getting off easy by you doing the work for him. He will continue to go on through life like this sponging off of others.
You are NTA unless you keep letting him use you.
NTA. You’re not his personal assistant.
Now, if he wants to pay for your notes… tell him notes cost $500. He’ll fuck off.
So those people that are calling you dramatic, why aren’t they giving him notes? Because you are the easy one. Stop giving people notes, you’re just enabling them to skip class.
Doesn’t cost you anything? How about the time and brain power you exert for those notes. How about those apples?
Absolutely NTA! You need to let this person fail.
It sounds like you like being helpful to people. And what I’m about to say comes from a place of love, and as a person who has spent her whole life worrying about making others happy.
STOP. You don’t owe this person anything and the quicker you can learn how to tell people no in the beginning, not just when you get fed up, the better your life will be. Full stop. You’ll also spend a lot less on therapy later.