WIBTA Friend’s birthday party

First of all, English is not my first language, so bare with me.

Now. My friend, (24f), I’ll call her Anna, will be 25 in April, and she’s never had any birthday celebration, of any kind, with her friends. And I said I would do it, because last year was her “golden birthday” and no one really cared and this year she is turning 25 and it’s a big deal for her.

She wants it to be special because on previous birthdays no one of her group made her feel special, no one even invited her to bowling/dinner or gave her a present, when she does this things for others (we don’t celebrate each other’s birthday but we invite one another and I go see her dance or things like that).

She has like 3 different friend groups, and then there is me, as a solo friend.

I’m organising the birthday with her best friend (24f), we can call her Ruby.

So, Ruby, first said that “we shouldn’t be planning anything because Anna’s grandad was sick”. And I knew that, and Anna is the kind of person that doesn’t like to sit in discomfort, and also, there are 3 groups to coordinate. Anyway, like 2 weeks later, the grandad is better (and I’m glad) and Ruby complains about money, but so far, gives 0 ideas. She says to make a group chat so we can all coordinate.

And here I can be the asshole, but I think, having 2-3 ideas with a price range, before having a group between 8-16 people is better than that many people deciding on what to do.

I gave ideas, and yeah, some are pricey, but because is renting a place and then food, others is a karaoke place but too little time, jumping yard and scape rooms are too pricey too. So I lastly said that someone can offer their house and we can do the rest.

Also, since money is an issue, I thought about 25 presents, but collectively.

I want to say, Ruby only texts me once a day.

So, wibta if I just gave up on trying to plan something nice for my friend?