A few months ago, an extremely close friendship ended between me and someone named Q. All of my other friends knew how it ended and I never said anything publicly or rather online, I was going through old photos and stumbled on some which put me in some feels. So hearing the Purple Rain trend on TikTok I decided I wanted do my own version and post it on my spam I made sure she was blocked and anyone associated with Q (so I thought). This wasn’t to diss or start drama it was me truly just posting "It’s such a shame our friendship had to end."
Since my notifications for that spam account are off, I decide to check back on the account and I find that Q’s little sisters friends are leaving passive aggressive comments and are in my DM’s. I don’t know them and I found it weird that they were getting involved when I didn’t know them at all. Again I didn’t post to cause drama, I was processing something very painful and I put it on a somewhat private account I made. Was it public, yes. Was it snarky or rude? Absolutely not.
I didn’t want it to escalate any further so I sent a text to Q and said this:
“Hi. I just wanted to say this directly. I know a TikTok I posted recently probably made its way to you. It wasn’t meant to be rude or petty. Yeah, it’s on my spam account which is technically public, but that post wasn’t me trying to start drama. It was me processing a friendship that’s not there anymore. That being said, there’s a reason you don’t and can’t see anything. We’re not friends, and you don’t have access to my life anymore. So I’d appreciate it if your sister’s friends didn’t leave passive-aggressive comments on something that had nothing to do with them. I’ve kept things respectful and distant, and I’d like that same energy in return.”
Q ended up responding with this long message that I still haven’t read because whenever Q and I were in a tiff or argument it would be her reiterating how much I hurt her, not taking accountability, and playing the victim so I had other friends read it for me and they told me what it said without knowing what it truly said. (I’ll drop the screenshot below I’m still not reading it).
I didn’t respond. I’m done with the back and forth. I’ve had these conversations with Q before where she deflects, centers herself, and avoids accountability. I didn’t post anything cruel. I was just grieving, and now I feel like I’m being punished for that.
So… AITA for posting the video and asking for her friends to leave me alone and should I just take the post down?