Last weekend I (32M) went to a basketball game with my cousin. We bought our tickets months ago and he ended up with pretty good lower-bowl seats. Right before tip-off a guy a couple seats away leaned over and asked if we’d switch with him and his girlfriend. He said he "messed up the tickets" and they weren’t near their friends. He pointed behind us and said friends were a few rows back and they were trying to sit together.
I looked where he pointed and the seats were clearly worse. Higher up more off to the side and near an aisle where people were already squeezing past. I told him sorry we paid for these and we were going to keep them.
He did that half-laugh like I was being difficult on purpose and walked off annoyed. In the second quarter an arena employee came over and told us there was a "seating issue" and asked to see our tickets, I showed them, they checked and said we were in the right place, apologized and left. It felt random but it also made me wonder if the guy tried to get us moved.
After the game while we were heading out the same guy caught up to me near the concourse. This time he was actually angry and told me I ruined his whole night because he was planning to propose to his gf on the kiss cam and their friends were supposed to be nearby to film it. He said if Id just switched the moment would’ve happened the way he planned and now it was "messed up".
I didnt even know what to say, I never got told anything about a proposal. He just asked to trade for worse seats and got mad when I said no. I also cant shake the feeling that the stuff thing wasn’t coincidence.
My cousin thinks it’s ridiculous and not my responsibility. Part of me still feels weird because maybe he did have a plan and I could’ve been nicer but I also dont like being pressured into giving up seats I paid for.
AITA?
NTA He messed up. Maybe if he had fully explained, you might have filmed it for him. But you had no obligation to leave seats you paid for, especially for worse seats.
Nta. He should have planned better and liaised with the events mgmt. to get better seats. Also no way it was random they came to check your tickets.
NTA, he should be mad at himself for ruining his own proposal with his poor planning 😃😃
NTA. They should have asked a couple in the crappy seats if they wanted to switch and get an upgrade. It doesn’t matter where you sit for the kiss cam/proposal. When asking someone to switch seats, they always get the better seats. this is common etiquette.
NTA.
Why didnt he switch with people near his friends? He would have been offering better seats to two people who would have gladly switched.
Why do people so often expect strangers to give them something just because they have the audacity to ask? This seems to happen on airplanes all the time.
Oh please. NTA. Guy is full of garbage. How difficult would it have been for one of his friends to come to where they were sitting to film it? And if something is important to you, you make sure to get tickets. And why wouldn’t he have said that when he asked you to switch, or offered you the difference in ticket prices? There was no proposal planned, and if there was, this is a case of FAFO. He just got in trouble with his girlfriend because their tickets weren’t near their friends. You shouldn’t give it a second thought
Hopefully the one he proposed to has just figured out that he’s angry and unorganised….and a cheapskate.. oh, NTA .
NTA if he cared enough about it he would have planned it better my guess is he just wanted to scam better seats.
NTA… wow… who did that jerk think he was? Hopefully she turns him down when he does propose. What a moron.
NTA: In the seats you paid for, tried to have the arena throw you out, didn’t try to sweeten the deal for you or compensate you in any way for the change, didn’t even give you the reason beforehand for why he really wanted those seats… Yeah, the problem is not with you.
HE messed up his own proposal by not buying the tickets he wanted. This was HIS plan for his girlfriend. This has nothing to do with anyone else. NTA.
NTA. Additionally, YTH (yer the hero) for saving his girlfriend from a tacky proposal she might have been guilted into accepting, only to immediately regret it.
Proposing at a game is cringe anyways.
NTA – she doesn’t want a kiss cam proposal anyway so you ruined nothing 🤣