Last week my (20f) friend (19f) sent me screenshots of my other friend katie talking about my bf to her. She kept saying he was so hot, and knew he had it “covered down there” because one time we got hotel rooms beside each other for spring break and heard us the whole week, which is not my fault because he’s a great lover and very very thoughtful to me and.. well she isn’t wrong about what she said. But he’s my bf and she really crossed the line. I went a little crazy and started spreading dirt about her to all the girls after my bf said he found it hot that she would say that. It’s at the point where all of our friends know she’s a nasty cunt and my boyfriend said Katie dm’d him on Instagram to sort out their old drama because I was kind of introduced to him through her. She didn’t know what she was getting into dealing with me, but my friend who initially told me is saying that I went overboard
YTA
She had a private conversation. Was it an ideal conversation? No. Did she flirt wit your boyfriend? No!
You purposely went public with whatever nastiness you could think of with the aim of destroying her.
You are a walking red flag of jealousy and insecurity.
Are you all in middle school? Grow up. You’re all TA.
You’re an asshole because why didn’t you just confront her? You’re also immature.
YTA and also insecure and a bad friend.
She didn’t flirt with him, and the way you acted was immature and more bullying that just “going overboard”.
ESH. You are giving off such immature and insecure vibes
YTA – Jealous, possesive, insecure, immature, vindictive. Sounds like your bf would be better off elsewhere!
Wasn’t your fault that they heard you guys? She doesn’t know what she’s dealing with? – the way you wrote this was very telling. Ha. Go kick rocks. You’re all TA.
YTA this is crazy. She hasn’t gone after your boyfriend, she didn’t flirt with him either. Everything you spread about her to your friends, from what I can see doesn’t fit her at all, you fit them instead. Jesus. You’re a bully. Your boyfriend is a soft YTA too, this should be a huge red flag to him and honestly, whether she is his friend or not, he shouldn’t let you treat her that way considering she introduced him to you. That last comment of yours “She didn’t know what she was getting into dealing with me” yeah, no, this isnt the great boost you think it is. You seem so disrespectful, entitled snd just nasty over all. Like you really showed your true colours here.
YTA, why are you taking an immature and insecure approach. Remember he is with you.
Sooo, she never actually flirted with him, just spoke about him to someone else? Your title is incorrect
ESH. Everyone – and I mean literally everyone involved – sucks here.
Friend 1 – for stirring the pot by sending you the messages in the first place.
Katie – for being inappropriate about your boyfriend (calling him hot is one thing but talking about your sex life is crossing a line) and for continuing to message him even after all this drama she caused.
You – for not confronting her directly and instead being petty and vindictive. Did you even have confirmation that the messages were real before you started spreading all of this? Did you get any context?
Your boyfriend – for calling it “hot” that she said these things instead of being a reassuring partner.
Sounds like he loves the attention and you love the drama and being the victim. All of you need to grow up a little.
Yikes all around. I won’t go so far as to say the friend who gave you the heads up about it is wrong for it, but literally everything that happened thereafter shouldn’t have. YTA.
YTA. I don’t feel like your friend did anything to deserve to be betrayed so badly by you. She was stating facts that she thought he was attractive and wasn’t even complaining that you were so inconsiderate and loud when staying in a connected room- just impressed. Which is wild; I’d be the first one telling you to STFU because it’s awkward to be hearing your friend get it on.
Your friend didn’t say anything directly to your boyfriend- YOU did. Then your insecure ass got triggered when he didn’t react the way you wanted him to. It sounds like you felt threatened and, instead of talking to your bf or therapist about your feelings, you betrayed that friend. You probably did her a favor; she needs better friends all around and not trashy ones like you and the other one who texted her opinions to you to start shit.