so i 19f have been dating this guy 20m for 2 months now we met on hinge while i was in my home town. i haven’t met his friends yet but i know of them and they know of me. since i was just in my home town for the end sem breaks (they are 2 months long idk why college offers such long breaks) we tried to meet as much as we could almost everyday and i know it can be a bit much but we kinda had the reasoning that i’ll go to uni and than we won’t be able to meet. so basically ever since we started dating his friend let’s name him K he is 25 (they are gym bros thats why age gap) has been kinda rude towards me and he is always like why can’t he and my bf hangout everyday like they use too i always felt kinda bad that i am reason he couldn’t meet his friends but he always reassured me that he wants to meet me and it’s not like he is not meeting his friends he doesn’t meet his college friends in college and he meet k atleast once or twice a week and also everyday in gym. anyways the due date came and i needed to leave for uni today and yesterday i met my bf and we had a heart full moment were we both cried and didn’t wanted the leave, but fortunately today my father came up with some work and couldn’t drop me so he will drop me tomorrow morning right before my classes after listening this i excitedly called my boyfriend but k picked up and said in a mocking tone “ale babu” and made a bunch of kissing noise i could hear my bf in the background asking him to back off and get quiet and when my bf snatched his phone from k and said hello i heard k say “aab jesa voh bolegi tu vesa karega uske pallu se bandh ja” translating too you will do whatever she will say now and go tie yourself to her only that thing stung alot because i always had that guilt that i was the reason he couldn’t meet my friends and that this is what his friends think about me when my bf asked what happened i said nothing and that i called because i was bored and said i’ll talk to u later since you’re busy and hung up.
Tbh I believe K is simply having issues that he’s not the only person your bf is hanging around in the vacations with. It’s not like your bf just ditched K and became your puppet, that’s what one might say. Pallu se bandh jaana, your bf was a good friend to him too, he met him once or twice a week as you said, and even in gym, what more does K want, that he makes him as his bf instead of you 🤣. And I get it totally, hearing all this on the call will not feel good ofc. And I feel you’re not the asshole for hanging up. Your bf needs to make K learn some boundaries as well. And tbh. A 25 year old making kissing sounds and saying all that on the phone to a 19 year old girl itself feels so weird to me. It gives very immature ish vibes, so I believe K needs to get a life and your bf needs to educate K and he should not be made to feel guilty to choose you if he wants this relationship to continue nicely .
NTA for hanging up. He’s 25 and should understand y’all’s dynamic ngl. Yea he’s joking and messing around with the phone call that’s how some guys “joke” around even if you don’t see it as that. Although K does have a point in how yall might be crowding him out but it’s Also break it’s a sprint to hangout and he should get that. He’s also 25 and should realize that too. I wouldn’t stress it although it sounds like they need to have a conversation yk.
Nta. He should understand you