I’m a minor and can’t legally move out on my own yet, but I’m trying my hardest to prepare for it. I already have money saved and I work two jobs. Most days I’m out of the house from around 6 a.m. to 11 p.m. I’m exhausted, burnt out, and honestly starving a lot of the time.
My mom does not buy food for the household. She DoorDashes food for herself and my sister, or she’ll buy groceries in bulk and label them with her name so no one else can touch them. I pay for all of my own meals, which makes saving money really hard, but I do it anyway because I know I’ll need to be independent soon.
Yesterday there was an ice storm, so I couldn’t DoorDash anything, and I also can’t drive because my license is suspended. The only food in the house was two big packs of sausage my mom had bought. My best friend and I cooked one pack (it was probably around $3).
This morning my mom sent me a long message saying that because I ate her sausage:
• Threatened to being kicked out(she does this a lot when she’s just angry)
• I’m a selfish bitch
• I now have to buy dinner for the whole house three times this week
The thing is, I already buy food for myself every single day, so forcing me to buy dinner for everyone doesn’t actually change anything except drain more of my money.
I didn’t eat it out of spite. I was hungry, there was no other food available, and I genuinely didn’t think eating one $3 pack of sausage would result in being threatened with homelessness.
AITA for eating the food?
EDIT: my friend who I was feeding has been living with me for over a year, she’s 19. Provides her own food, clothes, necessities, etc.
NTA
Please talk to an adult you trust about this.
NTA
With you being a minor, your mother is legally obligated to feed and house you.
Nta, you might be able to (and should) get her charged for criminal neglect. Like food and shelter are the two thing she HAS TO PROVIDE HER CHILD.
Go to a doctor or teacher and tell them you are being kicked out because you ate food your mother bought and were not able to buy your own food. Nta.
You are a minor … report her yourself. Call an officer existing the situation see if you can get help from an adult. Or tell an adult you trust at school. You should not be buying food for the household. She’s the adult . You are a child ..
But NTA
NTA, this is neglect. As you guardian, she legally has to provide food for you. If you have a trusted adult to talk to about this, please do. If not, you can report her to the authorities for neglect.
Please talk to a trusted adult or CPS etc, your mom needs reminding that it is HER job as a parent to supply food for her minor children! What she is doing is not right and should not be happening.
eta – NTA
NTA
If you’re still in school, take that text to a counselor or to your teacher.
If you’re not, call social services and leave in anonymous tip reporting your mother
Your mom is required to provide food and shelter for you. If she knows someone is watching, she’ll do it. And that will allow you to save more money so you can get out of there
Why does she treat you this way?
NTA please talk to a teacher or school counsellor or contact CPS. Your mom has to feed you and provide a bed until you are 18.
NTA If you are a minor, your mother must provide for you. You can call CPS and tell them what is going on. Show them the texts.
Also, you do not have to spend your money on food. Just tell your mother No. Eat whatever you want in the house.
If you are a minor she is responsible for providing you with your basic needs. If she does not provide you with those basic needs, or at least make arrangements for those needs to be provided for you, she could (and should) get in trouble for that.
Please talk to a safe adult who can help you navigate this situation. You shouldn’t be dealing with this on your own.
Jesus fucking Christ… Report her abusive ass to cps. The bare fucking minimum is to feed your goddamned kids. It’s not hard. The fact you mentioned doordash means she isn’t even cooking, so she orders in for her and your siblings but not you… She is abusive and you need to report it.
You are a minor. Your mother is at the very least LEGALLY obligated to feed, clothes, and house you until you turn 18. Let alone the moral/ethical obligation. Do you have a trusted adult in your life you could reach out to? You need real-world solutions, not reddit ones.
All I read was ‘I’m a minor’ and stopped.
Text your mom back stating she is legally responsible for buying the food for her children. You’re not buying food for the family as a minor. If she has a problem with rhat she can tell the police and CPS she doesn’t want to buy her children food.
NTA