A few months back I started rollerskating with some people I met at the skatepark. While there, I ran into a friend, let’s call her A, from back in my college days and started skating with her consistently and her friends. One of her guy friends, let’s call him K, would consistently flirt with me and, tbh, I was into it. K invited the group to go on a skate trip a few hours away for a weekend and I was super stoked to go. Fast forward a little but, K asked to hang out and later on kissed me. I kissed back, I was into it. We dated for a short while when he decided that he didn’t want to pursue further bc I told I wanted to move out of state at some point and he didn’t. Fair. I told him I needed some time apart before being able to skate like normal again with them. A and I skated the next month to celebrate our birthdays and K seemed to be a bit jealous of that. When he found out that me and A were gonna skate together again the day of my birthday, he pretty much invited himself and showed up too. Whatever man you can skate wherever you’d like whenever you’d like who am I to stop you. That day he kept flirting with me like he used to and even A pointed it out. A couple days later K spent the whole day sending me reels and memes which was fine up until they turned from skate themed to sexual. He then proceeds to ask to hook up which I took major offense to considering I had told him that i didn’t want to hook up with anybody that wasn’t actually interested in me. I may have said something hurtful that I didn’t mean along the lines of giving mmhim a chance being a mistake. Next day I’m blocked. I tried to reach out to A thinking since we were friends she’d be there for me. Instead she told me she didn’t want to hear it bc it was too much and she already had an argument with K about it. I was hurt, feeling like she didn’t exactly care about my feelings about the whole thing. I told her I was gonna take a break from skating and that we should probably part ways for now. A said she didnt want this to happen, that shes sorry i got so hurt and that she was still my friend. A few weeks go by and I decide to try to reach out to A in attempts to smooth things over and see if she wanted to skate. No response. I decide to go skate by myself and posted a video of it. A watched it and decided to unfollow me. Now a week later, I look and another person in the group decided to unfollow me as well. I don’t think I’m the asshole here but they sure are making me feel like I did something wrong. AITA??
NTA. You set a clear boundary and he ignored it, then flipped the script when you called it out. That’s on him. A choosing to side with him or avoid the situation instead of supporting you is disappointing, but it doesn’t make you wrong.
Sometimes friend groups quietly close ranks around the loudest person. It hurts, but it says more about them than you.