So, context: I was in medical school. Last year, I failed my resits and got dismissed. I was appealing this, but my appeal got rejected. I was back and forth between Cardiff (where I’m from) and Nottingham (where I studied) during this time. On the day I went to Nottingham to collect my things after the appeal was denied, I was mentally exhausted. I didn’t even expect anyone to be home, but my friend “Adam” was. I quickly grabbed my stuff, and we had a short goodbye after he knocked on my door, I spoke to him and had a short conversation with him where I said bye to him and then I left. I didn’t have the emotional capacity for anything more as this was one of the hardest days of my life.
After that, Adam got upset. He felt that I didn’t give him a proper goodbye, even though I did say goodbye. After that day, he stopped talking to me. He broke our Snapchat streak, ignored me in group chats, and didn’t acknowledge me at all. I only found out through mutual friends that he was angry I didn’t give him a more emotional bye. I should also mention that he actually got a goodbye from me whereas the rest of our friends didn’t see me and they had no issue. After this, he never asked how I was doing after that day, even though I was going through so much. I had no issue with him at all, but he had one with me, and he never communicated it.
I don’t know if I did anything wrong. I was dealing with one of the hardest things I’ve faced and I didn’t have the bandwidth for a long goodbye. He always used to say if someone has a problem, they should talk about it but he didn’t as he says he was tired of always being the one to reach out to solve issues in his other friendships. I feel like if he had the issue, he should be the one to reach out. AITA for not giving him the goodbye he wanted, and for not reaching out now after it’s been 2 months?
NTA , Adam is acting childish. Does he like you or something? Maybe that’s why he was expecting a bigger, more emotional goodbye? That’s the only thing I can think of tbh