I 36F work at a small 7-person business. I get a pretty significant amount of PTO since I’ve been here for over 12 years. I never call in sick (I am very rarely sick), and the only time I take off is for weekend road trips and vacations.
I have a pretty big vacation coming up (will be using 12 vacation days) and will be using a significant amount of PTO. I talked to my boss, and he cleared me to come in for a few weeks an hour early to get earn some extra PTO.
Well, his daughter, who also works with us, found out and is irritated. She wants to do the same, but since she has a kid, she can’t come in early. He mentioned that she could stay late and earn it, but she can’t do that either because of her kid. She’s not single, she lives with her BF (been with him for 5 years), but he won’t keep an eye on her kid whose 10.
She thinks I shouldn’t come in and earn that extra PTO.
So AITA for still coming in to earn that extra PTO?
NTA. Your boss approved it and that’s all that matters. Her feelings about it are her own to deal with.
Surely you do not actually think you’re the AH? I don’t understand.
NTA So because she can’t do it you also can’t? What kind of middle school logic is that?
Your job is none of her business. It’s between you and your boss. NTA.
Screw her!! Her situation is just that HER situation. What does her inability to earn have to affect and limit your ability? (Rhetorical) Her boyfriend wont help look after her child so that she can improve her situation. He sounds like a real winner. She needs to find a more supportive partner.
NTA- Your boss gave you and his daughter the same exact opportunity. You are willing to put in the effort to earn it. She isn’t. It sounds like she was expecting her dad to cave for her since she’s family. It’s not your problem.
NTA
It would be unfair if he dint allow her (or any other employee) the same opportunity to earn extra PTO, but it is not your fault that she is unable to utilize the same opportunity.
You’re NTA. You asked, your boss approved it, end of story. I guess you’re not taking anything from her, she just can’t make the same schedule work. I believe that’s not your responsibility to fix.
If the option exists (and if it is allowed), and you’re willing to do the extra hours, of course you should take it.
I think you probably already know your NTA – but you’re really not earning PTO you’re flexing time and banking it for later because you’re working the hours.
If you work 45 hours a week for 4 weeks you have worked an extra 20 and been paid for the 40 so you’re banking time not earning time off. This is a fair way to be able to take an extended vacation.
Now on to the real thing the boss daughter should be told hey I’m working extra hours and flexing them for later not earning free time off. But it is the bosses daughter – so I’d avoid discussing it in front of her. It’s a good deal for you an shows you employer trusts you enough to let you Flex Time. He/she may reconsider this if it causes anguish for other employees. In the future I would avoid sharing logistics with any other employee and keep arrangements with your boss between the 2 of you.
As mom that is wild behavior. We don’t get to do the same things people with kids can do it’s common sense. Nta
NTA. That’s ridiculous.
You’re over analyzing this. If you stopped going in early to earn PTO, what advantage does she gain? Nothing. This is her problem to deal with. Not yours. NTA
NTA
Your boss’s daughter isn’t your boss, and as long as your boss is fine with you coming in an hour early to earn some extra PTO, then you’re fine.
NTA that is the same as me saying because I’m a diabetic nobody else can have dessert. It’s ridiculous.