Currently, I’m 20 years old and I live with my parents. I have a relatively easy job and I should be starting college soon.
My parents have always been very strict about my studies and many other things, and in my opinion, they honestly overprotect me.
To give you an idea, they don’t like me using slang like "dude," "bro," or similar terms because they consider it to be slang used by thugs.
Furthermore, I’ve always really liked rock music, but I only started listening to the music I liked without headphones after I turned 12 because they didnt liked it (my fav band is Skillet) I only started listening to my music openly after my grandmother intervened.
They also complain about my friends, saying I should befriend people with "future potential" and who "want something," since in their minds the only topic my friends and I talk about is video games.
For the last, they also prevent me from playing when I get home from work (after I’ve done what I have to do) and complain A LOT about the amount of time I spend playing (RARELY about 2 hours if it’s during a weekday, except Friday. 4 to 6 hours from Friday night to Saturday morning, and about 4 hours on Sunday IF they allow it). If I were to put it in perspective, I think I play on average about 8 to 13 hours a week, which should decrease due to college and because for them, what I play is close to addiction.
And they aren’t bad parents, they’ve always done everything for me and never let me lack anything. But in a recent discussion about the time I spend gaming and why I should stop arriving 30 minutes early for work, I said, "It’s a shame I don’t earn enough to live alone yet, because my life’s dream is to live outside this house." They ended up getting quite upset, since they’re very attached to me and don’t really want me to move out (although it’s inevitable), and I wonder if I wasn’t being a bit of a jerk.
Find roommates and move out. Rent one room somewhere. Good luck!
Lmao terrible advice
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Your parents did have a valid role, when you were a minor of helping teach you values, time management, work ethic etc. However, the reason that role was valid was because thier job was supposed to be to equip you to live an independent, happy and sucessful adult life.
If they haven’t succeeded by now, it’s too late. You’re supposed to be using your own judgement, making mistakes and experiencing consequences now.
They are doing a poor job transitioning to being the parents of an adult. That’s the conversation you should be having with them.